PERFECT TIME TO LEAVE THE PAST BEHIND !!!!

Knowing , how to leave the past behind is a skill .

Lot many do not know this and they suffer from the past.

As the New Year began, we should know how to put 

the past behind , to move ahead..........life is in the ' ahead' ,

not in the past !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BREAK FREE IN TO POSITIVE SHELL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Let us take this new day , the very first day of the year in to a new path...............the positive path !

Let us break the negative shells that we are living in and move on to the new positive shell !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This will lead us to a very happy and prosperous New Year !

'' Happy, Prosperous and Peaceful New Year !!!''

LESS TIME FOR LEARNING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People have time for  T V, gossip and all sorts of things............

they don't have time for exercise and for learning !!!!!!!!!!!

Learning may change mindset, and new mindset will lead to 

broad mindedness and so on...................

People don't want this , because they are comfortable, where 

they are and don't want to move from there !!!!

LET US ALL MOVE TO A BETTER POSITIVE MINDSET

IN 2013 !!!

'' HAPPY AND PEACEFUL NEW YEAR ''TO ALL THOSE WHO FOLLOW THIS SITE !!!

SHARING HAPPINESS IS THE MOST SATISFYING THING!

NEVER WANTING TO LEARN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Unwilling to learn is a common thing with people, who are low 

in confidence.

For these people, the learning lead to change and changing

self is like loss of face !!!

Loss of face is the biggest problem with the people with 

lack of confidence !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!     ..........  false prestige !

SUSPICIOUS ALL THE WAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low self esteem are always suspicious of others !!!

They do not focus on what they have to do...........miss the 

opportunities thus .

They keep a check on others activities..........they think , others

are enemies sort............sad !!!!

NEGATIVE LAYERS IN THE MIND !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Many people don't learn, from their own mistakes even !

This is because , they have as many layers in the mind , which 


block their thinking faculty.  

These negative layers blind the people all the way , thus leading

to miseries  in life !!!

Just a few minute introspection will help them in such situations  !

CONTROL FREAK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are people , who want to control every one else !

This is due to acute selfishness .

Selfishness is as a result of low self esteem.

Need to work on self esteem in such cases !!!!

ONE WAY ( ALL THE WAY ) RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!!!!!!

For many, the relationship is only,''one way-their way only.''

These people do not care about the others in relationship......they just want to use others as tools to satisfy their own needs.......and their needs are unlimited and unquestionable too !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Any discord , the other party is at fault and is usually abused !

We may go in to so many New Years and 22nd/23rd etc. centuries, but our mindset remain the same or even worse, may travel backward !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

'' May this New Year bring , New Positive Mindset to all .''

FEELINGS , FEELINGS AND MORE FEELINGS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Many people live by their feelings...........feelings are good, we the human beings have to feel !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But, when we are taken over by our feelings and the feelings do not allow us to think logically, things may go wrong !

I mean, there are many , who do not use their intelligence and thinking faculty before they talk and take decisions.............these people become slaves to their feelings !

We should know how to control and channelise our feelings in  positive spirit, if we want to succeed and be happy !! 

BE POSITIVE TO GET POSITIVE RESPONSE !!!!

We can't change any one............no need to change too !

But, if we are patiently positive enough, we can get positive 

response and thus can have happy ambiance .

OTHERS ARE FOOLS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The people , who think others are fools and themselves to be smartest, are the real fools.  

Met many who are extremely talented and capable of doing wonderful things, but failed miserably in life due to this illusion !!!!!!!!!!!

Instead of focusing on what to do, these people try to boast about themselves !

ASSERTIVENESS MISTAKEN FOR CONFIDENCE !!!!!

Confident people are natural and every thing comes to them

naturally..........communication, conduct etc.

People ,who are not confident try many things...........they learn

in many places , to be assertive, persuasive etc.

These things do not work in any relationship................on the 

contrary, they will spoil things !!!

''WISH YOU ALL, WHO FOLLOW THIS SITE WITH POSITIVE SUGGESTIONS, THE BEST OF ALL NEW YEARS !!!!!!!!

I decided to wish all those who encouraged me to do this on a daily basis,  ''Very, Very Happy & Prosperous New year.''

This I hope , will help the people to read and respond, before they get lost in the celebrations !!!

Let us all hope and wish that the New Year will bring only the positive things like , sincere love and sharing of joy and peace !!!

SWEET V/S HONEST !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Honest comes to the point without any sophistication or flattery !!!
These people are reliable .

Sweet are sweet because, they have some thing to hide and hidden agenda is the one they pursue , beware !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IGNORANCE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No body can claim to be a master of every thing..........we all do not know many things......that is perfect !!!

Not knowing is not exactly be termed as, 'ignorance' !

Ignorance is when people refuse to learn, and act as if  they know  the unknown !!!

These people bring an iron curtain in their mind and block the flow of knowledge due to big ego and laziness........................this is ignorance !!!

IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO SEE THE REALITY ???

Met many, who would not like to accept reality !

Used to think , it was difficult to accept.

But, some time , I wonder if it is difficult to see the reality !!!

Closing eyes to avoid the reality lead to self destruction .

SAFETY IS WHAT MEANT BY ..'' DON'T '', YOUNG SHOULD REALIZE !!!!!!!!

If youngsters give confidence about their safety, by playing the safety rules, parents won't give too much of instructions , which sound to be negative for the ears !

Safety/Security are the primary concerns of any guardian/parent.....................play appropriate in life !!!!!!!!!!!

EMOTIONAL CHARITY , HOW ABOUT IT ?????????

There are some , very few people , who are giving 10% of their

income as charity.

But, the same people are not willing to give any thing as 

emotional charity !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They are not willing to set a part of their positive emotions 

for others .................this does not bring any fame , may be !!!!!!!

We may set aside a part of our lives for others well being too !

MOTIVATING FACTOR IS NOT ALWAYS THE SAME !!!!

We may have many motivating factors within us !!!

The most difficult job is to find out, what is the right one for

different occasion .

It differs from person to person................ so too, within a person

occasion to occasion................................................................

You may brainstorm..........................

NO TIME TO THINK...........THINK ABOUT CONSEQUENCES !!!!!!!!

Surprising that, people don't have the time and patience to pause for a second to think about the consequences of their actions, yet to be taken ...................

People jump in to the act and then repent !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why can't think about the consequences of each and every action, before acting upon impulse ?

NOT COMMERCIAL, JUST MAKING USEFUL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This site is not being viewed , because of commercial beautification !

This site is usually recommended by the viewers to their friends , as a site giving useful tips for self improvement !

Publicity is not the motto...........publicity has to come with word of mouth and recommendations !

Recommendations happen, when people find some thing is useful for their friends and families .

Thank you guys for your positive suggestions to make this site more attractive........................................

TOO NOISY ........................................

There are people , who talk too much about themselves.........they try to impress others with whatever !

They waste their lives , boasting about nothing !

They think others to be stupid and not worth listening !

May god bless on this auspicious day !!!

THANK YOU GUYS, PROMISE,'THE GOOD WORK WILL CONTINUE WITH YOUR SOLID SUPPORT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you all for the solid support by giving positive feed back !

I am sure to feed materials on this site , which will be useful for those wanting to know a bit about human beings !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

With the kind of positive comments, am motivated to continue the research............thank you all, once again, for motivating me to work harder with more responsibility !!!!!!!!!

Merry Xmas and Happy New year to all , who visit this site to encourage me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

REFUSING TO ACCEPT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low self esteem refuse to accept realities........they do not find any reason to do so 1

These people create their own fairy world, where every thing
is in their favour and think that , no one can challenge them !

By the time they open their eyes , they are late !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

REALITY, PEOPLE TRYING TO RUN AWAY FROM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We cannot run away from reality, just because , the reality is not what we desire.

People with low self esteem shut their eyes and pretend that the world is different and flow with their desirous intentions.

Living in such situation leads to failure................

ARROGANCE IS THE FIRST STEP TO DOOM !!!!!!!!!!!!

There are people with a lot of talents and resources , but big failures !!!!!!

These failures of such people are due to arrogance !

They mistake arrogance for confidence and thus carry on with stupid things, blindly.

They become blind to all positive things.........ignoring reasoning and thus step in to doom, self destruction !!!

PARTICULAR TASTE THAT CANNOT BE CHANGED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A taste, once liked is difficult to be changed...............

once we like some ways of behaviour , we don't want to change 

it for fear of loosing the pleasure !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CHEATING PATTERN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cheats do have a pattern..............it is very difficult for them 

to clear themselves off the pattern.

The pattern works in a cycle.........this habit never dies easily !

It is like a sort of addiction, they find pleasure in doing so !!!

OVER- CONFIDENCE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People who are not confident, shows themselves to be above every thing and every one !!!

These people , with a shade of some thing of minor importance , try to prove it to the world that they are extremely talented and smart ..............thus bringing themselves down !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CONTROL OVER DESIRES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our desires decide our character and behaviour !!!

If only, we have a control over our desires, we can change our

habits.

Habits come back to satisfy our desires !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SELF RIGHTEOUS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are people , who think themselves to be right always.

They think, they can't be wrong............they think , they can

manage others, can do, better than others.

They think , they know more than others !!!

This way they invite their own down-fall !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

REAL MOTIVATION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fulfilment and self satisfaction are the real self motivating factor for any one !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Whatever gives full satisfaction motivates us.............find it !!! 

NOT DOING A FAVOUR !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Treating others with respect is not a favour , we are doing .

Some people think themselves doing a favour, when they

give respect to others !

Every human being is to be respected , every one has a right

to be respected !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PLAYING THE GAME OF '' VICTIM '' !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Those who look for sympathy play the game of being ' victim '

!!!!!!

They do this by an easy way..............not willing to listen to the 

other people..............they know, if they listen,  they won't 

have a chance to be a victim !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PERFECT MATCH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Perfect matching is possible .....with great effort, but in a funny way and not serious way !

Matching of mind is the priority here...........levels have to be on the same lines.............needs to work with lots of fun !!!

HABITS ARE HABITS, CHANGING NEEDS LOTS OF EFFORT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Habits, once formed is difficult to be changed.......it needs lots of efforts........effort is not comfortable for normal human beings..........people hate making efforts !!!!!!!!!!!1

Habits , changed temporarily comes back........because, that's where the people are comfortable !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111

LOVE WITHOUT TRUST !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We want to love people but, we can't...........this situation happens with many of us, often !

We are unable to love others because, the base and ingredients of love are missing !

When we don't trust the people, who , we want to love, love becomes impossible !

Trust is a basic requirement for loving the other person !!

LIVING IN SHELLS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all live in our own shells, created and coloured by us !!!

Some give black , some white etc.....

Black, say , negatives want to break it at different points of

time, but are scared to do so for fear of insecurity.

Let us know that the positive shell is better and reliable 

security for any human being !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NAGGING, THE WORST THING ONE CAN DO TO OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We should not nag even the worst of enemies !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nagging is the worst thing any one can do to any other fellow human being...............it is equivalent to killing another , inch by inch !!!

HONOUR COMES TO THE DESERVING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The honour comes to the deserving, automatically.

No body has to be in search of honour , it comes to those who

deserve

Deserving talents cannot be hidden by any one , for long !!!!

BLIND BY SELF INTEREST !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our motivation is our self interest.

Any thing, that does not serve our self interest, we refuse !

We are blind to all other aspects and people, when they are 

not in line with our self interests !!!

We don't want to hear the suggestions by others, even when

such suggestions are very beneficial for us............we act 

deaf to them, because we feel that such suggestions will

derail our self interest !!!!

THE WORST ENEMY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Refusal to education is the worst enemy !

People are so lazy to give a thought to any thing new............

new knowledge..........ego and laziness do not allow them the

patience and willingness to self educate !

CHANGING OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all feel like changing some habits of others , at some point of life !

There is no need to change others...............nobody likes changes.

People are resistant to changes , because , they are scared of new situations.

We can get good results , if only we try to understand others positively...........understanding others and accepting the way they are, is the most important thing.

Wanting to change has to come from within !  For this the people have to have high self esteem .

STRETCHABLE CAPABILITIES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By intelligent, diligent, regular practice almost all our 

capabilities can be stretched beyond imagination !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All that we have to do is, to think like 21st century human 

beings, for achieving these extended capabilities !!!!

BORN CHILD, AND A CHILD THROUGH OUT !!!!!!!

Every is born as child and we retain a part of it through out !

There are people, who refuse to grow up and mature !!!

They remain as a child, in complete form through out their 

life time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OTHERS AS OUR MIRROR IMAGE !!!!!!!!!!!

We can see a major part of ourselves through others..........by observing others' reactions to our behaviour.

Our behaviour causes the reactions............therefore , others are like our mirror image, may not be very clear one !

WHEN WE LIVE TOGETHER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Only when we live together , we come to know the differences with the other person !

We come together for various reasons, which are the attractive factors .

Soon the attractive factors are overshadowed by realities.....

to know realities living together is a must !!!!

IT IS A HABIT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Inefficient and lazy people focus on others to find faults with them.

They can't live without talking bad about others !!!

The gossips  go round and round...................it becomes a habit for such people ........they become addicted to foul mouthing others !!!

NO ONE ELSE CAN BE RIGHT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low self esteem do a lot of things to declare about it and seek praise !

They presume that , no one else can do those things as good as them !

They praise themselves and expect others to follow !

APPRECIATION, APPRECIATION, APPRECIATION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are many , who do a lot of good things for the society.

But, very often the motivation to do such things are selfish......

they do it for getting appreciation from others.....in the process

such people do not reward their own people well !!!!

One side , it is charity, but to do so, they exploit others 

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  imagine the contradictions !

The very purpose of these people doing such things are self 

promotions and earning praise !

In reality the poor, exploited people are who, does good job..and

they don't get credit, because , they are not in the open !

STUPIDITY AT THE HIGHEST LEVEL !!!!!!

People with low self esteem think themselves to know every thing..........they do every thing by themselves, without taking help,even when it is very essential !

Afterwards they pat themselves on their back for their performance, which may be the worst!!!

This is the major difference between confident and non-confident people.

Low in confidence declare themselves to be greats !!!

LOVE WITHOUT RESPECT ??????????????????

There are many, who are sincere in loving others, but, the 

same people do not listen to the people , who they love !!! 

These people are just emotional and not logical at all.........

it is impossible make others feel loved without giving respect.

Respect is the base for all emotions !!!!!!!!!!!!!

GOOD INTENTIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We feel unhappy when we do not have any good intentions in life.

Blank mind too is of no use.

In order to be happy, it is a must to carry good intentions all along our journey ..............or else disaster is the result !

MIND AT DIFFERENT LEVELS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We have the capacity to take mind to different levels !

The higher we take it, the brighter we see the world !

If we can take it to a level , where there is no ego, we can 

have peak performances !!!

STUPIDITY OVERSHADOWS TALENTS !!!!!!!!

There are so many talented people in this world, but many are stupid in analysing things in a wrong way !

When stupidity overshadows talents, the talented becomes ineffective............talents are wasted this way !

Wish people live with a bit of self awareness !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WORLD'S EDUCATION DAY, MISSING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We have  :-

Mother's,

Fathers' day,

Friendship day,

Rose day,

Aids day  etc. etc............

But, no education day !!!!!!!!!!!!

If  we can have education day, there won't be any need for other days, because , all will be covered by education day !!!

USING OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We use others for our own benefits...........here in we do not give any respect or credit to the ones, who are used !!!

This is done, when we lack in confidence !

People with high self esteem , seek co-operation of others.........this way , others feel respected and excited !!!

INCAPABLE OF LOVING , DON'T BELIEVE ???

We think, loving others is the easiest thing. What is so difficult about it, people may wonder !

Loving others is the most difficult thing. Shouting and showing anger are much much easier than giving love !!!

To reach our love to others, we need to love ourselves first !!!

Those who are not comfortable within themselves won't be able to reach out to others through their love.........love is completely effortless...........those who are not comfortable with themselves will have to make big efforts..... that is not real love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CONVINCING SELF !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Convincing self is more difficult than convincing others.

To convince others, first, we need to be convinced about ourselves.

Requires a lot of practise for the above...........nothing is impossible, when we take positive steps !

Negative convictions are easy, that is what the laziest do always !

SELF CHECK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A frequent review about, our own life will help us to be more aware, as to what is happening within us !

We, in this fast world forget to be aware of self...........this leads to chaotic mind.........leads to frustrations and irritations !!!

TAKE YOUR MIND FOR A WALK !!!!!!!!!

Walking is good for health. Walking has many benefits as far as physical health is concerned.

The complete benefits.........all the benefits may be still unknown !

At the least , it doesn't allow the body to stagnate !!!

We should not let our mind stagnate too !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We should take our mind too, for a walk !

IMPOSSIBLE, NOT TO GET NOTICED !!!!!!!!!!!

People think, it is impossible to get noticed !!!

In fact, it is impossible, not to get noticed,  provided, you have the real talent.

There comes a time for sure to get noticed, and the time is when you are the REAL TALENT !

ASSUMING TO BE , '' BEING PRAISED '' !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are people , who think themselves to be the best in what they are doing......and assume that they are being praised by others.

eg. There are some speakers, who think that their speeches are being accepted by the audience in full.

They mistake an occasional glance, .''.eye contact, '' for being appreciated.....when in reality it is not true, it is a courteous gesture by the audience.

When this happens , the speaker overdo things and irritate the audience..........this way, the very purpose of the speech is defeated....................................

Same thing happens with many in other aspects of life..............assuming to know all, is the stupidest thing !

BARKING AT EVERY THING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

When we are in the stupidest mode, we bark at every thing and every one...............that is the only thing we know in such situations.

This situation is the result of unwillingness to learn and update. 

If we don't raise our level of mind with the ever changing world, we would be left with the only option..........barking !!!

IGNORANCE IS A BLISS FOR MANY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Many people do not want to educate themselves !

They are scared to be educated !

More knowledge means, more work and more responsibilities!

The lazy ones definitely would like to remain where they are , 

because they do not want to work more..............for such 

people , not knowing more is a blessing !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OBSTINACY IS NOTHING BUT, LAZINESS !!!!!!!!!!

When people do not like to move from the positions they are, they become obstinate.

This situations will be explained as pure conviction, as a shield.

Flexibility needs different actions..........means change..........and change is what lazy people don't like !!!!!!! 

NOT LEAVING THINGS TO OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!

When we are low in confidence, we do not leave any thing to others...........we feel others will take credit for things, which actually should have come to us.

This way, we over-do things and get tired and, in the process , inefficiency creeps in !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Taking others along is an art , but , this can be done only when we are confident about ourselves !

FEAR OF DOMINANCE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We are one time or the other, develop a peculiar sort of fear...........that is, the fear of being dominated by others.

This happens when we are low in self esteem !!!!!!!!!!!!

FORMULA FOR FAILURE IN LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ignorance + Laziness = failure.

Those who think, that they know every thing, when they do not, actually are  in the failure zone.

So too, those who are lazy, live on excuses and escapism .

This definitely lead to failure !!!!

UNHEALTHY LIVING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We may be very health conscious . We may try our best to keep ourselves healthy.

We may follow healthy diets. 

We may refuse unhealthy food........alright.

But, nothing is being done  by us about our mind !

If we don't follow the same principles for our mind, the stress factor comes into play...............stress and negativity is the root cause of almost all illness ! 

Taking care of physical aspect alone will not help us to serve our  purpose !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Think  !!!

CREDIT, THE ONLY MOTTO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are many, who do many things ,even when it is not necessary. They do things, even when they are not healthy or tired.

The only intention of these people are getting some credit/praise from others.

They may get praise from many, but, when they don't get it from the people , who matter , they become upset.

We should not do any thing with such intentions....things should be done, according to requirements and necessity !!!

OPTIONS, STUPIDLY IGNORED !!!!!!!!!!!!!

We, often play smart...........stupid people play it smart !

While doing so, we forget or ignore the plenty of options 

available to us.......even while communicating.........we do not

use the words available as options........and we go wrong !

Maturity allow us to be aware of these before going into

actions !!!!

SCARED OF GOOD THINGS IN LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Majority of the population is scared of good things , happening in life.

Happening of good things , takes away the opportunity for complaints !

Lazy and low in confidence want things to complain about, because , they get easy pleasure from such things !!!!

CONFUSIONS ALL THE WAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

With fast changing world, people become more and more confused about , what they are living for !

Fast changing world means, fast changing economics too.

Values depend on economics, to very good extent.

When world changes fast, economics too changes fast and this in turn changes the values too.

Changing values means, changing mind sets and thus confusions !!!

COPYING WON'T WORK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are many, who think that they can become masters of trade by copying things and making some modifications.

Insincere any thing , will complicate matters. if copying works, no body will invent any thing at all.......especially, the literary thing !!!

Without originality, nothing works...................

ROOT CAUSE OF FEAR ??????

Ignorance is the root cause of all types of fear.

When we know , what is what about any thing we venture,

we would be motivated to do things, rather than getting 

scared and avoid doing things !

eg. We are suspicious of cultures , we are not familiar with !

THE ONE THING , THAT DOES NOT DECREASE IN VALUE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Money value of every thing is affected by many factors and the values may go down , any time.

Knowledge is the one and the only thing , that is an exception to this................knowledge increase in value, never decrease !

Therefore acquire knowledge as much as possible !!! 

RESPONSIBILITY , NOT TO WASTE HUMAN RESOURCES !!!!!!!!

Our quality of life depends on the resources available to us and it's proper utilisation .

Every human being is a resource to the world..........there fore we have responsibility to use the resources in appropriate way.

Our lives should be useful to the society, the entire world.

It is our responsibility to make sure that, our lives are directed in such a way that , our contributions are helping the generations to come, in a big way !

Let us not waste our life  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ABUSE AND LEVEL OF MIND !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Level of mind and abuse (self ) as well are in direct proportion to each other.

The abuse is at the worst , when the level of mind is at the lowest.

At the highest level of mind, the abuse is absent  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Any one abusing other is because of the low level of mind !

Instead of feeling agitated, one should try to help the abuser to  
get educated .

THE NEED FOR ESCORTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We, the human beings, are social animals !

We feel nice, when we have the best of companionship.

For this to happen, matching of things have to happen, or else, things would not be as good as it should be.

Even when we think , we are alone, we are not .......our own shadow follow as escort !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Positive and confident shadow helps us ...........for this to happen, one has to have a very , very high self esteem  !!!!!!!!!!

THANK U ALL FOR THE NICE COMMENTS........CAN'T RESPOND WITHOUT HAVING PROPER EMAIL, SORRY FOR THAT !!!!!

It is nice feeling always, when sincere feed backs are forwarded. 

All that can be done,  here is, to thank you all for sincere appreciation.

It was nice to hear that , some one got a lunch, when she forwarded some useful blog of mine to her friend , who is doing a research  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you for being so honest.........wish you the best in life, always, such sincere people deserve it !!!!!!

URGE TO DO EVERY THING , SELF !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are people, who do not let others do things..........even when , the other person can do things better !!!!!!!!!!

This is because, people are worried about , better performance by the other.

People feel that the other person many overshadow them........this insecurity end up in, opportunities being wasted.

This sort of things happen with people , who are low in their confidence !!!!!!!!!!!!

Confident people would analyse things as to who can do better and will allow the best suited person to do the job.

DOING THINGS SELF, NOT TAKING HELP !!!!!!!!!!!

Doing things , self, is a good quality.

But, there are people , who, do more than what they can do, just to get praised by others.

Such people do things, that they don't know well , too.

They mess up many things in the process.

This happens due to their unwillingness to take help.

They do things, assuming that they are being praised by others !!!

People with low confidence , live on others' praise !

When things go wrong, they blame on those , who could have been helpful or any one in the world !!!!!!!!!!

WHY, ADJUSTMENTS ARE NOT POSSIBLE ?

Adjustment needs , forgetting and removing of ego.

Except, may be 0.5%, others cannot leave their ego !

That exactly  is the reason for , very few successful and happy 

people in this world !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

COMPROMISE V/S ADJUSTMENTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In relationships, people make compromises.

Many say, compromise is necessary to keep the relationship going !

But, how long , compromise is possible? Since compromise amounts to a sort of suppression, it becomes difficult to continue in that mode.

Instead , adjustment is what is needed...........adjusting to the level of other person's level of mind.

It is all about the level of mind !

WHY, ADJUSTMENTS ARE NECESSARY ???

Life is all about adjustments.......positive adjustments........adjustments with the proper, understanding of oneself and the other.

Why is it become necessary to adjust ?

Because, two minds are always at, two different levels.....never, never at the same level.

So, the higher level one , is the one to adjust with the other, because, the one at lower level will have more ego problems.

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LOW IN CONFIDENCE, STRONG OPINIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low confidence, always have opinions about every one and every thing. 

Such people don't feel the need, to even think rationally before saying their opinions.

They assume themselves to be the masters of every thing !!!

Their opinions are the strongest and the loudest.

They are not flexible.......for them flexibility is weakness !!!!!!!!

UNABLE TO LOVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love is the best of all emotions. It has no boundaries and barriers.
No one loses any thing, by loving some one else.

In fact love is beneficial to both, the one who loves, and the one  who is being loved.

Every body thinks , it is the easiest thing to do.

But,  it is the most difficult thing to do, for majority in this world............................................

PEOPLE, WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO LOVE OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PRECIOUS TIME, WASTED ON OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mind at low level, is always preoccupied with others..........think negatively about others !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

At this level of mind, one tries to find unreasonable reasons.

Mind will come out with innumerable funny excuses,
 for all the negatives about self .

This gives a lot of pleasure to people at low level of mind.

This is the worst stumbling block in self improvement.

Need of the hour is to educate oneself........continuously.

NOT READY IN LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our preparation should be an on-going and continuous thing.

There are many , who wait for some thing to happen , for them to prepare, for the event.

The fact of the matter is that , we can't prepare after happening of the event............means , we miss the opportunity in life.

After missing the opportunity, we complain about every one , every thing and our bad luck.

This mistake is being repeated by many, through out their life.

PLAYING ,GOOD BOY, GOOD GIRL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all want to be seen as , ' good boy ', or ' good girl '. 

That is fine.............but , if we are doing every thing, with the above intention only, then there is a question mark about our sincerity !

Those who do good things , naturally , will stand out in the crowd, without them knowing it !

We need to develop an in-built mechanism, to do good things, very naturally.................without having the agenda to project the good boy/girl image .

EGO OVERSHADOWS EVERY THING ELSE !!!!!!!!!!!

Some one may be extremely loving, caring and helpful .

But, when ego dominates, all the other good things are over-shadowed.

If a person carries all good qualities, to satisfy his/her own ego, the purpose  defeats oneself !!!

ATTITUDE IS WHAT MATTERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We may have talents, we may have potential, we may have resources, but, all these go waste, if, we don't have the right kind of attitude.

Without positive attitude, we can't do justice to our potential.

The main difference between successful and others, are the positive attitude !!!

LIFE IS ALWAYS ABOUT GOOD PARTNERSHIPS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Life is always about the best of partnerships.No individual member can claim victory of a team............it is always , a team that wins and not an individual !!

Scoring goal in a football match is that wins the match........but , no one can score a goal without being facilitated by all other members of the team !!!!!!!!!!

People with, low self esteem only will claim credit for themselves, whenever they score points in life ......... 

It is important to be in a team and in partnerships , starting with family.........as charity begins at home, it should begin at home .

ACCEPTING GOOD THINGS .......................

Accepting good things, like love, help, appreciation etc. from others , need self confidence/self esteem.

People of low self esteem, are not comfortable in asking for help.........so too, not comfortable , when they are being loved.

They think, that , such things happen , when they are weak...........and , they don't want to portray themselves to be weak !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

EXPOSURE COMPLICATES LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Too much exposure complicates our life..........we get confused with the options available to us.

Unless we match our mental growth with the type of exposure, we will be lot more unhappy with the choices available to us.

This confusion was not with the older generations, since, they had limited options, and they were living by the roles , that they were supposed to play...........less complications !!!!!!!!!!!!

''YOU ARE WITH ME'', IF ONLY.................................

There are people , who put lots of conditions in relationships.

There are such people , who want their friends to be living in the circle itself.

Such people are not comfortable, when their friends interact with people, who they are not friendly with.

' You are either with me , or with my enemy ', is the approach of these people.

These people retain the school children- mindset !!!!!!!!!!!!!

SMARTER THAN OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When we think , that we are smarter than others, we are not smart at all !!

Every one is , some way or other way, smart .

The one who thinks to be smarter than others , is not smart enough to understand the reality !!!

This leads to all sort of foolishness !

LIFE ,MEANS DIFFERENT THINGS TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE !!!!!!!!!

Don't think , there is a common definition for ,''life''.

For different people , life may mean differently.

But, the one thing, that every one may be looking for , could be satisfaction and happiness.

It all depends on, the way one perceives.

These perceptional difference lead to difference between two minds.................

ASK, AND DO NOT QUESTION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wise people ask questions to others with positive intentions:

to clarify things,

to gain experience .

Others do not ask questions............they question others as if :

They know all , 

and to let other person know about it.

The ultimate loser is  ?

MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT, ''LISTENING''.

There are many misconceptions about listening. 

1.  Listening means , saying , 'yes' to every thing that the person, talking .

2.  Listening means, supporting on each and every point , the person, talking .

In simple terms, the speaker expects blind support and agreement from the other person !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The real listening involves , exchange of view points, for mutual benefits .

COLLECTIVELY , WE SURVIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all want to be independent..........good in many aspects....should be so.

But, our survival, with all happiness, depends on our willingness for cooperation.

Too much of individualism, leads to many short-comings in life, which will shake the foundation of happiness.

Experience teaches us the importance of cooperation, for the benefit of self ,all and the world itself !!!!!!!!!!!!

IMMATURE AND CHALLENGE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Immature people try to challenge others.........this is to prove their own worth.

More over they try to prove, that others are not worthy.

Mature people do not challenge others ........they have gone beyond that level of mind to think small !!!

Mature people don't even challenge themselves......they know what to do in life, and they do it with all honesty and sincerity !!!

This is how they attain peace and happiness !!!!!!!!!!!!

BEING A STUDENT RATHER THAN A TEACHER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Life would be interesting and easy , if we remain as a student , through out our life time.

There is some thing, for all of us to learn, every minute, every day, which makes our life better and better.

Immature people, stop learning at the earliest time in life........because , they are in a hurry to teach others.

This hurry to teach others take their focus from learning, and, they remain that much ill equipped, to handle their life.

Let us share , if at all , rather than teaching others...........because , no one is ever is a complete master for teaching !!!

GREAT AND HUMBLE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Great are humble.  This is because, they have nothing to prove. They live the life in pursuit of whatever they think, they can do for themselves and the society.........they do it , because they love it.

When we achieve the state of mind, where , we think , we don't have to prove , we automatically do every thing naturally.........we feel like using our talents and time for the world.

If we think , the other way, ie. when we are humble , we are on the path to greatness.

Being humble, we throw ourselves in to the happy world !

EASY TO ABUSE, DIFFICULT TO APOLOGISE !!!!

When we are low in confidence, abuse comes the easiest way.

So too , apology becomes the most difficult thing .

Confident and mature people never abuse others.....so too , 

they would express regret and say apology, without being 

hurt !!!      Absence of ego helps them do this !

IMPOSSIBLE TO BRING DOWN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our worth depends on what we do and not on what others say about us.

Short tempered and immature people try to bring down others , when they have difference of opinions and heated debates.

This rebounds on those, who try to harm others  !!!!!!!!

The thrown mud doesn't stick on others !

MANY MANY FALLS BEFORE THE FIRST WALK !!!!!

A baby falls many times , while learning to walk.

After every fall , baby gets up with a smile, and take another new step, with positive determination.

Thank god, baby does not have ego.

Since, baby is free from the bad ego, the baby move forward, without being hurt .

We can shed our ego, if we take our mind to such innocent , but high level..................this help us to achieve ..........achieve for ourselves and lead a happy life !!!

NO PRAISE, NO LOVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low self esteem live on others' praise.

They do not function without being praised !

'' If you deny praise, I deny love '', is their attitude .

Low self esteem is the cause for this sad attitude .

FOR OR AGAINST ?

The intention of acquiring knowledge is very important.

If the intention itself is wrong, the knowledge too, turns out to be wrong.

If we seek knowledge to use against others, or , with an intention to argue with others, we are missing the real essence of knowledge !!!

Knowledge is for our own improvement !

GIVE PAIN , GET IT BACK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People try to pain others, when they are low in self confidence.

But, what they don't understand is, that the pain comes back , even stronger way...........it rebounds on the givers.

Instead of focusing on pain, which is a negative attitude, should focus on improvements !!!!!!!!!!!

WHY ARE WE IN PAIN ?

We experience pain, often.

No body wants to be in pain !

The one and the only reason, for our common pain, is our bad ego.

The bad ego forces us to live in denials . It prevents us from moving forward in all aspects of life.

Bad ego tells us that , we can be happy , if only we get what we want ............ the world should adjust with us.

Bad ego compels us to remain inactive !!!!

This prevent us from making positive efforts.

FEAR OF LOVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all want to be loved. But, often, we are not ready for accepting love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We fear , being loved, when we feel that the love brings some obligations along with it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We feel that, we may be obliged to do some thing in return !!!

This is what happens , when we have low / no self esteem !

BEING HUMAN !!!

'' Being human '', is the biggest challenge for any ' human being '!!!

It is the responsibility of any human being to lead the life, ' being human' in all aspects.

No one can claim to be a real human being , without being human !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CELEBRATING BIRTH DAYS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Celebrating more and more birth days doesn't mean any thing , other than ageing !

It is sad that many people, with ageing do not gain in experience.

Such people remain the same as far as internal development is concerned.

If we do not try to acquire the right kind of knowledge , with the right intention to use it for our own growth, we won't feel comfortable in life.

If our intention is to use the knowledge against others, we are actually failing ourselves !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here is where , we need to be really matured !

SINGLE POINT LEADING TO MAXIMUM BREAK-UP IN RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Break-up, may be temporary, happens in all relationships !

The one and the most important reason for such break-up 

is '' not growing up in relationship ''.

One person doesn't grow up ......when this happens, the other

person feel the frustration.

This continuous frustration causes break-up in relationships......

..................relationship of any sort :--

between                      girl friend - boy friend

                                  husband - wife

                                 brothers

                                 sisters

                                 friends

                                 parent - child

EVEN A CHILD NEED TO GROW UP ACCORDING TO

HER/HIS AGE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Living without awareness and not having the desire to have

knowledge is the reason for this........

Update on living and knowledge !

HUNGER FOR APPRECIATION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!W

We all have an appetite for appreciation.......every body wants it on a daily basis.

But, with maturity , we know, we need to work with good intentions, whether we get appreciation or not. Our work is not based, only on appreciations, we have  to lead a life with responsibility too !!!!

MATURITY DOESN'T ALLOW US TO SIT IDLE, WAITING FOR SOME ONE'S APPRECIATION TO START WORK.

Immature people live in glass houses, with the appreciations filled...................doing nothing..............wasting their time !!!

WE ONLY FAIL OURSELVES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We only can fail ourselves, by our mind set.

When we think , we are a failure , we are a failure...........

This thought of being failed , fails us.

No one else can fail us.

This doesn't mean, that , we can sit idle, doing nothing and hallucinate that we are fine, and are successful.

We don't have to attach too much importance to  words like, failure and success.

All that we have to do, in this world of opportunity is, to work for a better life............this attitude brings us what we look for !!!

When we try to prove that we are this or that to others , we are losing focus on what we have to do !!!!!!!!

GOOD PARENTING..........

In this world of abundance, parents overfeed their children.

They give all that a baby cries for .

These babies remain babies, when they grow up..........they grow up physically only !!!

These people continue with their cries, expecting to get more and more from parents !

The cries may take ugly turns like abuse and showing tantrums !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FEED THEM WITH LESS FOOD AND MORE RESPONSIBILITIES...........................................IN CHANGING WORLD, WE NEED TO CHANGE THE PARENTING WAYS TOO.

OR ELSE , WE ARE CREATING IRRESPONSIBLE AND UNWORTHY CITIZENS , WHO LIVE LIKE PARASITES........A BURDEN TO THE SOCIETY.

THIS IS A SITUATION, WHERE THESE PAMPERED ONES, DON'T EVEN  KNOW ,''WHAT THEY ARE LIVING FOR''.