Tuesday 31 July 2012

FEELING SHY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

More often , we feel shy to ask things , we want.

This way, we miss out on many things in life !

When we want to know, important information, we don't ask,

may be , we are uncomfortable as to how the other person will

judge us !

Need to work on self esteem to get away from such situation !!!!

AT 24, DRYNESS............

It was due to mental block , the dryness happened !!!!!

We do not open up to many of our thoughts, due to society !!!

Certain such things take a few minutes , but we , at times live

with things , fearing to open up !

KNOW YOUR MIND !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We should try to know our mind well.

If we can master our mind, we will be able to guide it appropriately.

If we can direct our mind , the way we want, many impossible things can be made possible.

Here is where , the expansion of our ability happens.................

good news for men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KNOW YOUR BODY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We should know about our body very well !

We should know , how it reacts to food, climate etc,

So too , we should know what exercises, works for our body and not for others !

Once we know this , we can work wonders !!!!!!!!!

IF NOT MULTIPLE, MANY TIMES , POSSIBLE !!!!!

Men need not worry, if they are positive enough !

If not multiple , like women, many times are posible......... need

to work and practise on a regular basis !!!!!!!!!!!!!

But, for sure, it is possible !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CAPABILITY CAN BE EXPANDED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We can expand our capabilities , provided , we believe in that and practise regularly !

Basic problem is , lethargic attitude !

Only a very few people are self motivated to look ahead in life.

Others stay where they are , in their comfort zones !!!!!!!!!!!!

INFERIORITY COMPLEX & EXTREMES !!!!!!!!

People with inferiority complex have this extreme postures !

Either they do not communicate enough, or they talk too much

to prove points and attracting attention !

This takes away the balance in life, which is the essence to feel

comfortable within and focus on whatever important things !!!!

Need lot of patience, when we deal with these people as to when

and how to react !!!!!!!!

CAN'T CHANGE , CAN'T IGNORE !!!!!!!!

We cannot change any one , for that matter !

And, when it is a negative one, it is still worse and impossible !

In fact, we should not try to change any one to conform with us.

We may try to make the negatives, positives.

All that , we can do is to ignore the negatives but, listen to the

possible positives, so that, the negative person gets a hearing

and more important attention.

This way, by paying attention to the reasonable things, with a

lot of patience, we may be able to see positive changes in them!!

Monday 30 July 2012

OBSERVE TO LEARN, NOT TO JUDGE !!!!!!!!!!!!!

In life , we always have to walk along or between some fine lines.................... the difference between good and bad is very thin !!!!!!!!!!!

Some people's observation makes others uncomfortable !!!!!

This is a serious problem, especially when, there is cultural difference !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Foreigners visiting countries like India, face this big menace !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

JOKES V/S OFFENCE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some jokes may turn out to be very offencive for the other person.

This happens , when people are from different cultures !

It is advisable to avoid jokes, when people are from different

back ground and especially from different cultures !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

INTERFERENCE IS INTIMIDATION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Interference amounts to intimidation ! Many people have this bad habit of poking their nose in to others' personal matters, and comment about it.

A minimum decency says that, we should not interfere with others.

Interference amounts to pressure and it will come back to the person !

LIVE & LET LIVE FREE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We should practise the ' free living '!


We should  make sure that , we are free of negativity..........negativity is like a jailor , who keeps us in jail !!!!!!


So also, we have no right to keep others in our control.


We should let others free !


When this happens, the world will change for the best !

UNSOLICITED OPINIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low self esteem will always have opinions about every thing, even about what they don't know !


They want to prove some thing, try to let others know about their knowledge !


What they don't know is, that others don't appreciate things, that are not asked for !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


This habit will make them a laughing stock !!!!!!!!!!!

BEING BLUNT IS NOT A TRAIT !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some people mistake being blunt for being sincere and honest !


'' Ignorance is not a bliss '', they should know !


Before making blunt statements, one should know about the 


righteousness of the statement !  If it is not right, a blunt


statement will cause a lot of harm in relationships, permanently !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AVOID WASTAGE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Successful people are successful, because, they use all the resources available in the world and within self to the  best and maximum !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


They do not waste time,available to them, by being lazy !


So too, they do not waste their energy , by bringing negativity !


They make sure , their metabolism is working well, by keeping a positive and balanced mind ................they know the mind - body connection very well.


This valuable knowledge, they put in to use , the efficient way !

Sunday 29 July 2012

WALK ON A " NEW PATH "

This is a fast changing world. We have been using the same infrastructure, same cultural guidance and same language over the years .


It is time now, for a new approach......not entirely new !


It has become a fashion to curse oneself , when things do not work well, according to our plan.


On much lesser occasions like, forgetting to carry some thing on us , we say, 'shit', etc.  !!!!


We have this habit, very much of blaming and cursing others , for our own fault !!!!!!!!!!


WATCH OUT FOR HAPPY CHANGES IN YOU, IF YOU STOP USING THIS LANGUAGES !!!!!


LIFE WILL CHANGE DRAMATICALLY, ONCE WE STOP CURSING !!!


THIS WAY , CREATE NEW POSITIVE,CHEERFUL AND SMOOTH  PATH , ON WHICH WE CAN WALK TOWARDS HAPPY LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EMBRACE BROAD MINDEDNESS !!!!!!

We must learn and practise to appreciate good qualities and achievements of , considered enemies !!


For this to happen, we have to be really , really , very broad minded..............


Personally, I suggest, not to carry any enmity(poison) in our mind, because, it affects us adversely !!!!

IT'S LIKE INFECTION !!!!!!!!!!!!!

We won't be able to function properly and efficiently , if our body is infected. Infections affect our physic !


The same is the case with our mind, our mind won't be able to function, clearly, when it is infected  with negative thoughts.


We need to remove all negatives - this can be done easily, but , only by ourselves - for our own good !


There is no point in carrying this poison, due to bad ego...........leave the ego for ever !!

THE REAL BREAK-THROUGH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Freedom, the complete freedom is , any human being looks for !


Freedom from others is easy.


Freedom from our own negative mind,  is the most difficult to achieve !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Those ,who achieve this freedom, are the luckiest in the world.


This is the ultimate break-through factor, for any human being.


This break-through opens up the entire world for such people !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THE BEST FEELING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Re-union is a good feeling. After bitter misunderstandings , when people come together with clean air , is one of the best feelings, one can have.


Misunderstandings are part of life. But, trying hard to clear, is worth the gold.


Positive minds do come together , our mind work in tandem with other positives !

SEX AND THE CITY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We should know our job/profession in and out for financial comfort !


We should know the cultures to live any where in the world comfortably !


We should know , in and about the city , we are living in to be a part of it, to fit in to it well and, to feel safe !


Well  !! , should know it from all around to feel ecstasy !!!!!!!!!!!


Those , who make tall claims about things , mostly are ignorant about many things........... should make efforts to master all above !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WHAT WE DO TO US & OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!

We do not think about , what we do to us and also, what we do to others !


We always complain about , what others do /did to us !

The first one is what matters more than the other !!!!!!

Saturday 28 July 2012

YESTERDAY SHOULD BE PUT IN TO DUST BIN !!!!!o

Old and used things are put in to dust bin. It is not good to eat stale food , not healthy at all, on the contrary , it harms us !


Same way, we have to put our past behind us.......... use whatever experience of yesterday , we wanted to correct ourselves.   After corrections, we should throw ' yesterday / past '
in to dust bin !!


Then only , we will be able to have freshness to-day and plan for tomorrow !

PRIORITIES ARE THE GUIDE .................

When we prioritise things , we are able to focus on one at a time.


We, the human beings are born with the programming of being able to concentrate only on one at a time, with full justice.


Priorities are the priority of the smart and successful people !

PRIORITY V/S IMPULSE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our actions may be planned and prioritised ..........this happens with maturity .


Experience teaches us to be pragmatic and practical , after burning fingers , many times in life !!!!!


At immature state, our actions are ,mostly based on impulse and instinct or under the influence of external forces !!!!


Wisdom suggests us to take valuable inputs from experienced people, as early as in our life , so as to save time to improve .


Coaches help the pupil to learn fast and save time, rather than learning from trial and error base, which takes more time.

GO, GET IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Negative people will always highlight the negative side of any thing. They do have enough points to highlight in any ways !


There is abundance as far as negativity is concerned !!!!!!


The reality is there is abundance in positive way ! All that we have to do is to open our mind , more than mere eyes !!!


If we open our mind and heart , we will find whatever we want............................GO GET IT !

LEARN FROM ARTISTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Artists do a lot of planning, thinking, taking things in to their system and rehearse many different ways , before putting up the act !

They know their lines, understand meanings ,practise innumerable times , before they become successful !

Majority of students,on the contrary, try to remember without understanding the meanings. They lack in enthusiasm due to this!

Those who work in offices, do not even think in advance, what they have to do ! They just reach their office and start working as if  putting on a switch to light !

Without application of mind, the work is being carried out ! Quality may suffer,mistakes may creep in this way ,causing loss of job..........only to grumble later on about the boss !

STRESS CAUSES MORE HARM THAN POLLUTION !!!!!!

Stress may be causing more death than chemicals and pollution !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stress is a by-product of negative thinking !


Broad minded people are less stressed ..............this gives us the idea that , stress can be prevented by changing mindset from negative to positive !


Open mind opens many opportunities !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

COMFORT ZONES & ANGER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People enjoy remaining in comfort zones !


Any suggestion to move from there will invite anger and enmity !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Ask a child to study , when the child is enjoying lazy dreaming, Internet, watching T V, you are inviting trouble  !!!!...........the child will show all restlessness !


Ask a person to take up some job, assignments , the person goes in to enmity mode........in some cases, for life long !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


May be 3% of the total population creates comfort zone, in whatever they do , or wherever they live !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


That exactly is the reason for less number of successful and happy people in this world !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


MAKE NEW COMFORT ZONES , WHILE MOVING AHEAD BY DOING MORE  !!!!

MAKING A POSITIVE DIFFERENCE TO THE WORLD !!!!!!!!

We all are capable of making small , positive changes to the world !


If every body try for this, we all will be happily living on this planet !


" Happy to learn from many, that my daily blogs , here, have made ,  small positive changes, in their lives. ''


' Shall continue my try '

UPDATE................MASTER KEY TO SUCCESS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Know , many people, with so many professional qualifications.


These people live with qualifications, they acquired. Unfortunately they do not update . This attitude has spoilt them in the sense, they are not better than those , who were no where near them, before!!! 


After a basic qualification, the quality of our life depends on , how far we are willing to update !


If we go through the lives of any successful person in the world, this is the one thing, that you can see in them, as a common trait !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Personally, I have gained a lot from this principle ............my daily blog  is  a small proof.........happy to know that these blogs have touched many lives in small ways !!!!!!!!


Update in all aspects of human life is important and unavoidable, if we want to feel happy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Friday 27 July 2012

'' I TOLD YOU ''

" I told you ", is commonly heard in daily conversations !


This one statements reveals, how egoistic are we !


Ego is the worst enemy , one can sleep with !!!!!!!!!!!!


Even 007, won't be able to conquer this enemy !


Only way, is to remove it from the system by patient practice !

BEING THANKLESS.....SMART STRATEGY !!!!!!!!

Wonder why, some people are thankless always..........especially children towards their parents ?


This is a smart strategy.........children know the weaknesses of love , of their parents towards them.


If they show satisfaction in life, they will not get more attention and other things too.


It is often the case that, the crying baby gets the milk.........


Remaining thankless and showing rebel is an EXTORTION method adopted by selfish and lazy children !!!


Help them to work hard . Providing more,will make them live like parasites !

CHANGING GENERATIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Older generations used to sacrifice for the benefit of younger generations, and that gave them a lot of satisfaction !


Younger generations feel that , whatever the older did was their
duty !!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Younger generations think that they have  a right to enjoy their life......... and older generations should provide for it  !!!!


This has given a new college of thought for the older 
generations, now............not to leave any thing behind, for any one in particular......give every thing back to the society as charity.


Many governments also have passed law , stating that no body has a right to inherit just by virtue of their birth............may open the eyes of the reckless young ones !

GOING CONCERN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Business organisations are formed and operated on a simple principle that they are going concern............they do not presume to be stopped any time.


Their strategies and out look about market are based on this principle.


They expect loss and recession , but they persist with the fundamentals and develop new avenues and strategies.


Human life is also similar to this. Set backs are expected, but should persist with the core principles and may develop new positive strategies and fields !


Challenges are the spice of life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OBJECTIVITY..................

Our life must have some objectivity.


Majority do not have the above idea about life.


This is the reason for distracted life .


We need to add character and colour to our life .


Life is so much precious that we cannot neglect it without being


objective about it !

OPPORTUNITIES WAIT FOR YOU !!!!!!!!

Those who are positive, need not have to worry, because, the world is waiting for you with plenty of opportunities !


As is always said, ' there is no free lunch ', here too we have to do certain minimum things..................


1)  CONSISTENCY ....We have to show consistency in our behaviour and efforts. This alone will give the reliability feeling to the world, about us.

2) EXTREMELY POSITIVE & CHEERFUL....We need to create positive and cheerful vibe around us.

We can have the life , we want , if we follow the above minimum qualities !!!

GENERALLY ACCEPTED NORMS !!!!!!

We should follow the generally accepted norms and principles of society, for our good !


This will help us to be a good human being, and also to avoid confrontation attitude !


Mind at peace can do any wonders, and to acquire the peace, we should follow some basic principles , whenever we deal with any human being , in any circumstances.


We may not trust every one for sure, but, should not carry any bad feeling about any one human being.........this is a cardinal principle of living in harmony !!!

TOO PERSONAL

At immature stage, we personalise every thing too strongly.


This leads to , too much of sensitivity.


This extreme sensitivity causes problems in any relationships.


Therefore, we need to take a third party view, to make things 


lighter. and to see the subject as subject, away from our 


personality.


This helps us to understand things better, and to maintain any 


relationship in happy way !

WHEN WE THINK , WE ARE TOO SMART !!!!!

Many immature , young guys from good families think , they are too smart and can fool others !


Those who think , they are smart enough to get away are in for big problems........ must know , all are smart and cannot hide things from others !!!!!!


Some, rich kids stage manage kidnapping to extract money from their own parents !!!


Imagine the stupidity of the stupid , who think that they can fool others, only to be caught !!!!!!!

SACRIFICE OTHERS TO PROTECT WRONG !!!

Many young guys take advice from inappropriate people .


This is due to immaturity. This causes problems to them.


When they face problems, they don't want to admit the mistake


as normal. On top of it , they want to protect those who were


wrong in giving the advice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Then to cover up their folly,due to bad ego, they turn to targets!


Usually, the easy targets are their own people !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Selfish interest and low self esteem causes this chaos !!!


Learning to admit and accept mistakes is human quality  !

MINIMUM BASIC PRINCIPLES !!!!!!!!!

We must be living with some minimum basic principles, if we have to do justice to our being humans !


More than being human, even for our growth, development and success , these principles are required !


Treating others as human beings , with basic decency and respect is the minimum ,one should remember.


Because, we have our own problems, we don't want to control our mind , while dealing with others is not acceptable !


People carry their stress and problems and they pass on the negatives on to others, who are innocent !.......this is not humane !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thursday 26 July 2012

FALSE PRESTIGE IS LIKE CANCER .............

False prestige affects our entire operational system to make progress in life.

It prevents us from thinking appropriately and marching forward .


It works as a burden being carried on our shoulders through out our life.


False prestige is due to lack of self esteem ! Need to improve in that area!!!

POINT OF VIEW !!!!!!!

When we make judgements and pass comments about others and their decisions, we see it from our point of view, based on the circumstances, we have created in our mind.


But, others have their own point of view, based on the circumstances they have created in their mind, and hence, there won't be any match as such !


No one can claim the righteousness , but, that's where the positive dialogues help us , the human beings, to create harmony !  ............ keep the positive dialogues going to acquire wisdom !

THE WORST FEELING , WE CAN HAVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The worst feeling , we can have is , when we feel that we are not doing well in life.........we are not doing justice to ourselves, our capabilities !!!

This leads to a trapped feeling...........as if , we have committed a big crime !

Now, we want to escape from this , how ?

The mind search for escape route, being normal human being !

The easy route is to shift blame on some one else, who is an easy and soft target !!!!!!!!

Instead of solving the problem, this negative step will take us deep in to the trap !

Therefore, we should forgive ourselves to get out of this trap...........after all , it is human to commit mistakes and forgive !

THE MOMENT WE GET OUT OF THIS TRAP, WE WILL ENJOY A GREAT RELIEF AND FEEL, WHICH WILL TAKE US TO GREAT HEIGHTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday 25 July 2012

WASTE OF ENERGY AND TIME ....................

Success comes , when we channelize our energy and time, to positive goals.


If we feel that we are unsuccessful, we should immediately know  that, we are not doing things in proper way, and are wasting our in born talents and energy, on unwanted things !

NO NEED TO STEAL THE SHOW !!!!!

True heroes do not try to steal the show and lime light.


They know that, their character will take care of it !


Villains, on the contrary try to steal lime light ,  that is why 


they are villains !!!

NO SHAME IN REPAIRING RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!

People,who are the victims of false prestige, do not try to repair relationships.


They feel ashamed , thinking that they will become small in other's eyes !!!!


This is a cheap mentality....a non-confidence trap.....from where we should move out and be in the open to feel the fresh air !!!!!


IT WILL BE A BIG RELIEF , WHEN WE DO THIS !

TRUE REPENTANCE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

True repentance is when, we do not repeat  mistakes.


There are times ,when we verbally apologise using all possible best words, but ,go back to the same old ways !!!!!

Where do we stand in terms of SINCERITY ?


This is a matter of serious personal integrity .


We bring ourselves down, when we do this sort of things, however we may try to justify !


No justification will stand good .


PERSONAL INTEGRITY IS THE MOST VALUABLE QUALITY ONE MUST ACQUIRE TO IMPROVE INTERNAL GROWTH


No body will our words, when we play mischief with personal integrity !


People will take us seriously, if only, we live with utmost integrity !



NEGATIVITY IS SHORT TERM.........

There are some media , which over plays negativity. They give undue weight to negative and controversial news.


So too, they become personal ............


Some people ,some time get attracted to it, but soon the interest dies !


It is the same in our personal lives.........attraction to negativity is short term............ better switch over to positive side !

BREAK OUT OF THE NEGATIVE SHELL ........

Our future and life is in the positive world of abundance !


If we want to make required progress and the life we want, we 


should break the negative shell and come out of it.


It is so simple as that ...................................................

INTERNAL CHECK ..........................

Every conversation has two agendas....... one external and the 


main.....hidden.


Before we talk and blame others for our own so called set backs


 in life,   check the internal / hidden agenda......................... isn't it 


to cover up our own insecurities only or not !


This internal check of HIDDEN AGENDA will help us a lot to 


improve us like the INTERNAL AUDIT  in corporates !!!!!!



Help ourselves this way, by being open minded 1

KNOWING THE RIGHT WELL WISHERS !!!!!

Bad ego doesn't allow us to think appropriately and this lead to, not recognising the right well wishers !


Illogical selection leads to the people , who say yes to every thing that we wish........


Yes-men are not the right well-wishers !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO TIME FOR WISDOM AS IS THE CASE FOR EXERCISE !!!!!!!!!!

People don't have the time for exercise...........


So too , they don't have the time to aquire wisdom !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




They have the time to gossip...............



They have the time to curse  people , who they do not like ...for

their own unfound reasons !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WE ARE ALL INDIRECTLY CONNECTED ......

We are all connected to each other, may be, indirectly.........but are connected.

Those who think that they don't , and don't need connections are the people , who do not have the wisdom to understand the dynamics.

Aquiring wisdom is the one capability that distinguishes human beings from animal kingdom !

Unfortunately, many do not try to develop this quality, they misuse the ability given to us by the nature and years of evolution and sacrifices of many generations !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IMMATURE TO UNDERSTAND OTHERS, WHO SACRIFICED FOR US.................

Not sure , if it the immaturity or clever selfishness , which causes people , not to understand the sacrifices for them.

People do not want to know about others, who stood by them, who lived for them, sacrificing their happiness !!!!!

Any ways, the sacrificer always would feel satisfied for his/her best try to improve the lives of the people, whom he/she loved .

The sacrificer may leave this world without even letting the other person know , that all that he/she did was for the loved one !
The sacrificer would wish that the supposed beneficiery wakes up on time and show progress , which is the only dream of the sacrificer  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sacrificers dream only about the beneficieries !

FIRST, CONVINCE OURSELVES..................

We should convince ourselves that , we do not gain any thing by trying to convince others.

On the contrary, we are losing the focus on our important priorities...........this leads to chaotic thinking due to wrong intentions !

URGE TO CONVINCE OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Those who lack in self confidence feel that they are not doing well in life... their own imaginations !

Hence, they develop the urge to convince the public that , it is because of others fault...........

This is because, these people do not organise things in life and in their mind appropriately..........scattered thoughts , because the intentions are wrong, that is to convince others !

UNCOMFORTABLE WITHIN .....................

When we feel uncomfortable within ourselves , we resort to the easiest outlet............blame it on others !

This brings temporary consolation and to get a better feel, make others too uncomfortable......so that we feel ourselves to be on par, on the scale of happiness/sadness !!!

We feel uncomfortable, when we are lacking in confidence and that happens , when we do not do our bit !........... lazy !

NOT MY FAULT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all try to be defencive.


We say , ' I am not at fault ', why this need ?


Even when there is no question being asked by others , we feel internally , this urge !


This happens more often with people, who lack self confidence.


They feel uncomfortable for no reason and imagine that the world is looking at them with a question mark !!!


This creates the constant internal talk , ' I am not at fault, others are responsible for my unsatisfactory situation '.


This urge to convince self and others lead to pointing fingers at others and the images of the possible targets play in the mind.


This is the biggest road block in life for such people !!!


Unless and until , this feeling is cleared it is difficult to focus !


This is causing frequent change of focus, not giving importance to priorities !


NOT WORTH IMAGINING !

STUBBORN ! ,WELL BE PREPARED TO BE A LOSER !!!!!

There are so many ,who are extremely stubborn and they stupidly think it is a quality too !

In a way ,every one, to certain extent is stubborn......this is because,no one is completely free of bad ego !

Where does this lead to ........... every one to certain extent is stubborn means, the one who is extreme and not flexible is going to end up  big loser !


Those who are extremely stubborn,  be prepared to be a loser !


The degree of stubbornness is the measuring yard stick of  bad ego !!!!!

COOPERATION & NOT CONFRONTATION !!!!!

Nothing can be achieved through confrontation !

My way or highway approach will not work in life .

Cooperation is the best way to lead a successful, cheerful life !

And , that is the only way.

Bad ego is what is standing in the way of cooperation and

understanding things for better and maturity !

Tuesday 24 July 2012

MAKE UP FOR THE LOST !!!!

In this century , we have the opportunities and time to make up for , what we think we don't have !

This is possible, only when we think about making up, for the lost time or whatever in a positive way!

We just need to think about sharpening our skills, and earn experience, and experience with new skills will take us through to bright future !

GOOD LUCK !

IMPORTANTS OF EXTRA CURRICULAR !!!!!

Participating in extra curricular  activities ,at very young age, in schools help children to accept realities like , so called failure.

Those, who never participate in games and such activities will find it difficult to face the so called failure and accept them like the sports people !

Such people expect others to go to them and tell them, it is because of others........... is it possible for the whole world to go to them and understand this situations to help them out ?

Simple thing that one can do it is to , accept the fact that there no complete failure as such, it is a process.

And continue trying things to improve life , cheerfully !
Things will happen only when we take things positively , rather than expecting others to be at their knees !

Such expectation is not a reality !

FACING & ACCEPTING FAILURES, SPORTINGLY !!!!!!!

Many people are unable to face the so called failures, I say, so called, because, I, personally don't consider any thing as failure !

When they face this difficulty, they try to shift the blame on others.........their mind search for excuses !

They get agitated, annoyed and try to recall imaginary incidents to justify their situation !


They would never want to leave this negativity, because, they think , they will become weak, if they do so !

Hence, we see people living with the same excuses all along their
life time ! 

POSITIVITY HAS ELASTICITY........

Positivity is elastic, we can stretch as much we want !

This helps us to think focused and create a process , which can be very fruitful !

NEGATIVITY SHRINKS INTELLIGENCE !!!!!!

Negativity by itself is stress and, stress doesn't allow us to focus clearly.


The clarity of thoughts are prevented this way !  When we maintain our negative streak, we are actually not working/thinking at our best !

Monday 23 July 2012

WHEN WE THINK , WE ARE INTELLIGENT !!!!

When we think , we are more intelligent and smart than others........... we are taking ourselves to the stupidest low level  !!!!!

MAKING MOCKERY OF OTHERS SACRIFICES !!!!!

Young generations (not all) make mockery of sacrifices of older generations.

They think very low about old generations, without knowing the circumstances under which the old generations have lived and had to take decisions.

Decisions are right or wrong depending on the circumstances, like in economics ,we say,if conditions remain the same , this principle will hold good  !!!!

Criticising without having a grip of circumstances is the stupidest thing a human being can expose himself to !

FIT IN TO FAMILY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Every member of a family is like a brick in a building !

When all the members fit in appropriately, the family becomes solid and strong, which is in the interest of all...........not a few only !

Those not making the effort ,to be a strong brick in the part ,will become weak themselves.........

Just for some selfish reasons, people try to be away from the part ......... later , when they realise the folly, it may be too late..............in any case, better late than never !

TAKING ON FAMILY !!!!!!!!!!!

There is a trend among many young people to take on their own families.

The primary aim is to cover up their irresponsible ways of living . So too , when they feel guilty for not doing their bit .

They try to project that they are victims of circumstances ! This way they get a lot of sympathy from so called well wishers and friends !

This way, they will try to prove that , whatever they are , are because of the support from friends !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

These people may realise that, others too are intelligent to know their games !  They only are unaware of what they are doing, perhaps !

We can fool some people some days , not all people all days !!!!!

Turning positive at the earliest will help them go a long way before it becomes too late.

When we try to fool others , in reality , we are fooling us only !

HIGHLY OPINIONATED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People who lack self confidence try to hide behind some covers .

So also, when  people feel guilty for their past mistakes do the same.

To cover themselves up, they have strong opinions about every thing and about every one ................all negative, negative only will serve their purpose !!!!!

In reality, this way they are blocking their progress, which they will repent, may be too late !!

Sunday 22 July 2012

GREAT BEING INTRODUCED TO NEW THINGS !

Learning any new thing at any stage of life is interesting !!

Directing and engaging mind in to challenging thing in positive way is exciting !!

THE MORE THE BETTER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The more the better !

When we work more, we feel better and more satisfied !

Life is all about satisfaction, being active and, contributing in

any kind or form !

HOW TO BE ENTHUSIASTIC ?

It is almost impossible for many to feel enthusiastic !!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, it is the same for all up to a stage .

Positive people never give up, and continue their work, and they know, that after the take off stage , things will become automatically on the roll !!!!!!!!!!!!

Difficulty is only up to the take off stage !

Therefore, we need to have patience till take off

NATIONS ARE BUILT ON EDUCATION BASE !!!!!

Leading nations are leading , because, they have a better base of education !

Education, formal or self is the base for building our future !

Those , who do not give importance to this can never make required progress !

WHENEVER I THOUGHT .......................

Whenever I thought that I know all about this , some thing new crops up !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That amazing is this world of abundance, we have so much to learn and enjoy, if we want, ............ can never learn every thing in our life time !

This is good thing because, we , the positive people will never get bored !

WHATEVER HAPPENS FOR GOOD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This title is being used by many as positive talking point !

It is because , the actions are initiated by our subconscious mind, which knows only positive language !

The actions by subconscious is not recognised by the conscious mind and , many  things that  happen to us, we think are set backs !

Only conscious mind read words like set backs, failure etc., since, they are negative words !

The so called set backs are the corrective directions by subconscious , which are positive .........  so have patience and be more and more positive whenever so called set backs happen !!!!

POSITIVE SUBCONSCIOUS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Subconscious mind knows only positive language !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, whatever happens, will be for our good, provided, we have

a complete positive trait in our system !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The so called set backs in life is done by the subconscious to

direct us, to the thing we wanted positively............. only positive

desires !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Subconscious mind cannot direct us to the negative desires ,

because, subconscious doesn't recognise the negative language !

ACCEPT REALITIES ............

We should be prepared to accept realities !

Saturday 21 July 2012

LIVING FOR OTHERS V/S BY OTHERS ......

Living for others is good and noble ...............high self esteem !

Living by others is not advisable ...................low self esteem !

SOCIAL STIGMA AND PRESSURE !!!!!!

We become a sort of victims to social stigmas , if we are low in self esteem.

These stigmas add pressure to our daily life !

High self esteem help us to live for ourselves by our belief system and thus avoid stigma factor !

SEPARATIONS HAVE BECOME POSSIBLE REALITY !!!

Old generations did not have to face and worry about separations, it was unknown to them !

Today, it is a common possibility and we have to accept this reality !

Since, changes take generations to settle down, it is not easy for any one to accept this as a reality !

Those , who are incapable of acceptance, face difficulty in life !!!

DIFFICULT TO REMOVE THE THINGS SET IN !!!!!

Every human mind collects certain peculiar patterns and ways

of beliefs !

Any thought goes through this set patterns and thus becomes

difficult to get things clear in the mind !

It is very difficult to remove such set-in belief system and unless

and until it is cleared, won't be  possible to be confident about

our ability to think and act appropriately !!!

MODERN LIFE AND THE REALITIES !!!!

We are at the mercy of more and more realities , the realities

are on the increase due to modern life !

We are exposed to many new fields and this creates new

realities, which were unknown to old generations.

Since , we are new to this situation, we are mentally vulnerable

to such realities.

Therefore, we have to open up our mind to meet such surprise

eventualities which leads to realities !

Very , very open approach only will take us through !

MORE AND MORE POSSIBILITIES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

World is changing so fast and in so many different directions !

This results in more and more possibilities, positive and negative ways .

Therefore , the most important thing is that, we should be

mentally prepared to accept and meet new possibilities !

Positive mental preparation to be tough and strong is becoming

imperant , if we want to survive happily !!!

DO NOT WATCH NEGATIVE/DARK MOVIES !!!

There are many , who watch too much of negative and dark movies and programs !

These negatives take control over the thinking habits of people, which will have negative and dark tastes !!!!!

Should avoid such negatives as much as possible !

UNDERSTANDING SMALL PROBLEMS !!!!!

We need to observe well to understand others' problems before

we come in to conclusions .

Often, we are too quick to pass comments and judgements ,

which is sad  !

SMALL THINGS MATTERS BIG !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Small things are the base and the things that matters big.

We have a tendency to  ignore small things ......... they are not

attractive enough to pay attention.

But, they do matter in a big way !

Friday 20 July 2012

BLEND OF THINGS BETTER !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nothing is perfect ! Therefore , we should try to learn about many things and try to extract the best from all and blend it for betterment .

No single culture is perfect. Take the best from all and blend it !

Mix beings have their own many advantages !!

Therefore, we should not miss the opportunity by being biased and obstinate !

POSITIVE CHALLENGE .........

Positive challenges help us to stretch our abilities to any extent !

Our enemy is within only, that is the negative energy and mediocre mentality !

MEN HAVE TO STRECH THEIR CAPABILITIES !!!!

Now that women have evolved and stretched so far , so quick , men too should do their bit.

There are hidden capabilities , which have to be tapped !

It is  possible with a bit effort and intelligence.

When it is done, the balance happen with women ..... harmony is attained thus !!!!!

HEALTH CONTROLS OUR DESTINY !!!!!!!!!!!

Perfect health is necessary for peak performance ! Thus health is the most contributing factor in our success.

Health is in our hands, but , many neglect it due to laziness.

People have as many excuses possible to avoid exercises and thinking positively !

NEGATIVITY IS PUBLICISED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Vested interests publicise and highlight the negative words through media . They are the biggest source of income for many !

So too, when we are lazy , we need some excuses........we say, ' not in a mood '. 

How can mood take control of us.  We are in control of our thought process and hence we are in control of our mood !

Thursday 19 July 2012

WHO WANTS THE NEGATIVES !!!!!!!!!!!!

There are two types of people , who love the negatives !

1. The lazy people, who want excuses to sit idle !

2. The people , who want to make money , scaring the weak

minded people !

CAN'T FORGET WORRIES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's common for people to say, ' let's do this so that we can forget worries '!

No one can forget worries. If we try to escape it, it comes even more strongly.

Then , why people say like this ? , only to justify their stupid actions...............they think, they can fool others , fools only think that they can fool other  people !!!!!!!!!

HEALTHY CONNECTIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!

Healthy connections help us to beat worries.  But the connections should be the right ones!

First of all, all these negative words are unnecessarily created by the vested interests to boost their business.

There is nothing called worry as such, some one created it and we unknowingly use this more often !

Lots of people make big money in the name of worry, tension and stress !

Ask them to explain , what these or how these are, they wouldn't know ! Even we do not know, but we use these terms because, we are brainwashed to do so !

Remove these words from our life, and watch out !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT COME WITH A PRICE !!!!

There is a price tag attached to every thing. Nothing is free in this world, but then,  it fair too !

Growth and development too comes with a price , personal growth comes with a lot of worry and anxiety factor.

But , if we take the right mind set to these problems, we can conquer any thing.

Worries do not help us in positive way, that helps the negatives to creep in.

Therefore, we need to convert this worries in to challenge and drive the monster away !

MEN CAN LEARN A LOT FROM WOMEN !!!!!!!!!!!!

Women have evolved at a great speed over the years ! They

have moved from kitchen and home to any where !

Men did not respond to this well , rather do not !

Therefore, men are not comfortable with this changed women !

Instead of feeling insecure and jealous, men should take this

as a positive change and should try to make a match of it to

make life beautiful !!!

FEAR ALL ALONG !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When some thing bad happens to us, we carry this scar all

along.

The fear generated by the incident keeps coming back to us

with new situations .

This fear freezes us from taking actions............ we need to work

on this to remove this feeling, and prevent it from coming

back !

LET THEM BE INTERESTED ..................

Children should be made interested in cultures.  If they can be

familiar with different cultures, we soon will be celebrating ''

world citizens day '', which will bring complete peace in to this

world !!!

The unknown fear is the reason for all turmoils !

EXCELLENCE & NOT COMPETITIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!

Parents want their children to be competitive !!!

The word, 'competitive', brings the stress in to the children.

Their mind , immediately search for those who are doing better

than them , in any field. This may create jealousy even !

Definitely , the comparison comes in to picture .

Comparison is the worst road block, it distracts from the goal !

IMPROVEMENT ORIENTED & NOT AMBITIOUS !!!!!

Parents want their children to be ambitious. Often heard that

'my child is not ambitious like the children at this age '.

The word ,'ambition' generates the feeling of comparison and

performance pressure !

The very idea of motivation can be done by asking the child

to look for improvements in their stride, without push .

When a child is motivated to the avenues for improvement, the

child is not bothered about others and the full focus will be on

the job that he has on hand ! This helps the child to be free of

stress !

LANGUAGE , WE USE & IT'S EFFECT !!!!!!!!

We are very careless about the languages that we use in daily life. This is because , we do not know the real effect of it on us and on others too !

If we have to lead a stress free life , we need to cut out many words and phrases for ever , from our life !

We need to use only those languages that keep us under control and balance !

Wednesday 18 July 2012

CONTRIBUTOR FACTOR !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If , every one lives by the principle of contribution, human life

would have been quite pleasant !

To-day , the life is all about being selfish , and that's what is

coming in between our search for happiness and satisfaction !

ANXIETY CAN BE BROKEN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anxiety can be broken only with a challenging attitude, rather

than sitting and brooding about it.

Challenge attitude helps to overcome the hurdles and the focus

shifts to process !

CULTURAL DIFFERENCE !!!

Cultural differences create different world as if the human beings do not belong to the same world !

Therefore it is very essential for us to learn and understand the differences and the similarities, if we want to be comfortable, when we meet different culture !

HOW TO AVOID ANXIETY ???

Anxiety is the by-product of modern life ! When we try to advance our life , there comes anxiety along with it , This is due to the high expectation involved in high level of performance !

The only way to avoid anxiety is to keep the life simple !

OVERWHELMING FEELING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are people , who love others more than themselves  !!!

This may not be good in relationships, because, the other

person may feel overwhelmed and may feel unable to

reciprocate . This is a big put off in relationships !

Love' is precious and should be handled appropriately .

NECESSITY OF BALANCING IN RELATIONSHIP !

It is very necessary to balance emotions in any relationship.

Or else , some one will feel being controlled ........... matter of

interfering with freedom ........no body likes it !

Intentions are good , and there is love,that too strong, but won't

do good , if it is over done!

EGO THAT HAS NO LIMITS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ego is like a gas, it has no boundaries and limits ! It affects any area/spectrum.

It  destructs self , primarily and then it spreads like a storm at a very fast pace !

It affects all and sundry !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SOME THING IN EVERY INCIDENCE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If we are positive, we can see some thing in every incidents, that is valuable lessons for us !

Total positivity helps to learn new things every day, from every source and this attitude keeps healthy too !

THERE IS SOME THING FOR US !!!!!!!!!!!

In any communication , even in the bitter one, there is some message that we can take, if we are positive.

Every communication of any sort leaves some thing for us , if we are willing to sit and analyse positively !

The message might not have been put in a straight forward way by the communicator, but , there must be some thing !

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF LOVE !!!!!

Psychology changes with evolution. It depends on many other factors too.

What remains constant is love.

Therefore , we should know, how to fit this changes in to 'love',

 for ultimate !

SLAVES TO SOCIAL OBLIGATIONS !!!!

In certain cultures, the social obligations make the people slaves.

If at all, we have obligations towards our own family . Charity begins at home, and so too, we should own up family responsibility before any thing else .

INITIAL ENTHUSIASM .....................

People think about making positive difference to their life.

They take elaborate steps for this with a lot of enthusiasm.

But, 97% , loses the enthusiasm soon..........this is because , their motivation was not internal !!!

DYNAMICS OF RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Different relationships have different dynamics. Without knowing the dynamics, we get confused in relationships.

These things are not taught to us , any where . Therefore , we go through the trial and error process, which is painful , often !

Tuesday 17 July 2012

ELEMENTS OF ANXIETY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fast world is bound to increase the anxiety !

The contributing elements are..........

Performance

Expectations

Time 

Status

Proving point etc.

INTANGIBLE WORTH IN RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!!!

People get in to relationship, after considering the material worth of the relationship .

Many may dispute, but , it is there in our system, inbuilt.

But , with maturity and experience, people look for intangible worth when they fall for it..........hence , many people do not care about the age gap !

CUT THROAT COMPETITION ..........................

World is fast changing and there is cut throat competition in every field, including finding a  partner !

Many use positive ways to get ahead and others negative.

In sports , people use sledging to distract the opponent ! The one who fall for it, lose the match !

IMMATURE IMPROVISATION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Immature people have this habit of improvising any thing at the first instance !  They are so impatient to master things, that they get in to improvisation.

I suggested a simple visualisation to some one . It was a basic, simple one.

But, this guy did it with total variation to what I suggested . And the complaint is that it doesn't work !!!

 

KNOW THE LEVEL OF THE PEOPLE !!!!!!!!!!!!!

We should know the level of people to whom we are talking.

The mental level , I meant, because, the people should be able to grasp the idea well. Or else , they may be misled by wrong interpretation of the subject !

Only at same level of mind, people can click well !

MUST MASTER COMMUNICATION ART !!!!!!

We may have the best of intentions , when we suggest things to others, especially our young people.

But, if our tone and style do not carry the tender feeling, the very communication will create pressure for the young ones !

Therefore , before we start speaking, we should think about the effect of the way we present it , on others .

Or else, the well intended effort may have an adverse effect !!!

ENMITY, THE POISON !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Carrying enmity feeling is the strongest poison, one can have in life time !

This takes away all our energy, and it comes in the way of focus !

We have to identify the triggering point , which brings this in our mind and remove it for ever and substitute with forgiveness , to heal ourselves !!!!!!!!

NEGATIVE TRIGGERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our negative habits are repeated due to negative triggers !

' Whenever my friend is in financial problem , he remembers his friend , who did not return the loan given to him '

How many times , this amount could be useful ........... through out his life time  ?

But, he curses the friend , who did not return the loan,  each and every time , he has financial problem.

He doesn't think practical way,  the mind is triggered by the financial difficulties.

This is how , we repeat our negative feelings.............take care of triggers and say good bye to it , if we want to be free of enmities and curses ! 

IMMENSE POTENTIAL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Was stunned to see a boy, born autistic, singing most complicated songs !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!. He sings this on a  T V program, competing with all

well trained,well rehearsed people !  It is on 'you tube ' !

This shows , the potential of human beings , when they

channelise their mind in a positive way.

I do adore this boy, and am grateful for opening my eyes even

more !

Those , who complain about each and every should take

inspiration from such people !