TIPS WON'T WORK FOR LONG !!!

Tips are available for sorts of problems . These tips won't work permanently.

eg. When you feel low, go to open space and be in the full light !

It relieves a bit , due to change of ambiance.

But, unless and until we sort things out in the mind , the thing that is bothering us , we won't feel free completely and permanently !!!!!!!!!!

Positive sorting out and fixing a matured mindset only , is the solution to any thing.

EGO MAKES SURE OF .............

Our ego makes sure that we are destined to fail in our missions !

It makes sure that we take more than double the normal time to achieve even a small goal !

It affects our systems and create health problems too !

NEGATIVITY WEAKENS / BLOCKS OUR SENSES !!!!

Negativity weakens our senses and systems.

It blocks our senses.......... our observation, listening and thinking faculty !

ADVISORS' JOB IS LIMITED, GREATS KNOW IT !!!

Great people collect a pool of advisors. Advisors job is to gather informations an give the prons and cons of it.

Good advisors won't inflence their boss's decisions !

In experienced and immature people will try to inflence decisions for their recognition .

Such people may not see every side of the matter in question and that will lead to wrong decisions !

CAN HAVE EVERY THING IF ONLY ............

We can have every thing that we want to have ,  if only we follow certain principles.

Main thing is to be positive and lead a life without grudge.

Another most important thing is to sacrifice our ego  !

Take our people along as a team, doesn't matter difference of opinion happens !

Be flexible !

Bad ego will throw us in to deep trouble !

SELF HELP BOOKS ARE BORING !!!!!!!!!!!

Majority find, self help books boring  !

These books try to motivate people. The motivational messages appear in every page .

How do the lazy people find these books .................. boring  !!!

PEOPLE LOVE FANTACIES AND PAST LIFE STORIES !!!

People love books of fantacies and past life stories because, they don't motivate to look forward !

These books give them the pleasure sitting idle !

These books help them to go in to past and fantacise, easiest way to have pleasure !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LIVING WITH THE PAST !!!!!

We find it difficult to leave the past behind us. It is almost impossible for many.

It becomes impossible, rather it is made impossible by negative attitude.............. to fall back on the past as an excuse for not making an effort to move on !

Innumerable people take this as a convenient excuse for leading lethargic life !

Human resources worth millions are not put in to use this way.

In fact, all the dreams can be achieved the moment they turn positive and have a bit of patience........... Rome was not built in a day !!!!

KEY TO FAILURE !!!!!

Maintaining negativity as a way to escapism is the key to failure !

This way , the focus is on escapism........... not on self improvement, not on accepting mistakes and not on self correction.

Bad ego, which keeps on egging about loss of face is the basic reason for all our undoings ~

MASTER KEY TO ALL PROBLEMS !!!!!

Laziness is the master key to all our problems.

When we are lazy , we find excuses ,

                                  we shift blame on others !


Once we open up ourselves, the world too will open up for us !! 

DAILY CLEANSING !!!

Like we clean our body every day , we should clean up our mind too...................... clean the negative dirt & fill positives !

Like good mouth wash and  body sprays bring attention of others,  positive mind will attract the best !!!!!

RESPECT AND APPRECIATION !!!!

We should learn to respect others and should learn to appreciate what we have.

This will help us to improve on what we have .  If we don't recognise what we have , we won't be able to build on that further !

The disrespecting years are behind, no body take notice of the negative side of any one......... won't get any attention that way !

NEGATIVE IMAGINATION SYNDROM !!!!

All human beings have a bit of negative side.

What do we imagine, when some is very late and no message about arrival ?

Accident, or some other negative side !

But, there are many , who is drowned in this negative imagination about every aspect of life.

This drains the person .

Focus on job and let the best result happen as by-product !

PROVING POINT SYNDROME !!!!!!

We are prone to this silly habit of proving points.

When we imagine that others do not respect us, we try to prove points to earn their respect.

All these imaginations create confusions and we get tired due to the stress !

Focus on our job and life !

OTHER PEOPLE SYNDROM !!!!!!!!!!

We often think that others are watching us, talking about us and may be critisizing us !

This is a very irritating thing inside us. But, who is responsible for this ? Who creates this feelings?

We only, it is our imagination.

Therefore, we only can correct it. 

All that we have to do is to focus on our job and life .

LIVING OUTSIDE IN ..............................

Many people live outside in............  They try to own all material things first and then think about meaningful living.

This happens with people , who want to prove their worth to others. They relate their worth with their possessions !!!!

The people , who are confident, try to make interna progress because , they know that  with internal worth, they can live any where any time, well.

They accumulate experience, knowledge and carry the society around them in happy atmosphere !

BETWEEN SUCCESS & FAILURE !!!!!!!

There is a stage between success and failure. ie. The process and experience.

When we try, the entire try is the process and the entire process is what gives us the experience.

We do not give importance to this stage and either we celebrate success or we feel bad about failure.

Personally , I never use the term failure because we do not fail as you have seen the gain of experience.

So either we achieve the goal or we gain the knowlege and experience............... as Thomas Edison said !

LIFTING BEYOND CAPACITY !!!!

We are often over excited about certain things . This excitement without proper reasoning leads to stress.

Some people over do excercises, expecting to  speed up results.

In the process, they try lifting weights beyond capacity leading to ............

Same way , we unknowingly try lifting things beyond our capacity and that causes over doing, causing stress !

LOSS OF FACE !!!!

We are much more worried about losing our face than losing any thing else !

But, what we don't understand is , when we try to save our face,   we lose every thing  including , what we wanted to save !

BAD EGO !!!!

Bad ego is the reason for stubbornness. When we are at low self esteem, we live with the bad ego.

Bad ego doesn't allow us to change our stance !!!

Bad ego tells us that we lose face if we change our stance/decision !

STUBBORNNESS BRINGS MISERIES !!!

Stubbornness bring miseries in to our life. We need to be flexible , logically and should be willing to accept mistakes and realities.

Acceptance is the first step to prevent stress .

BEING PRACTICAL !!!!

The easy way to happy living is being practical.

For this , we need to think and analise matters, must listen to

people with experience , who gives input .

The know all attitude and blocked mindset will not help us.

INVITING STRESS !!!!!!

We often invite stress in our life. This is basically done due to our disorientation.

When we don't know our priorities, we get confused. This confusion generates stress in us !

For setting priorities, one should gather informations about what we should do when and how.

Just deciding by impulse or on suggestion by fly-by-night experts will definitely lead to inviting stress.

LIVING IN DENIAL !!!!

People live in denial mode due to laziness and lack of motivation.

They think that they can fool others , saying past stories .

Denial act is like a road block to progress.  Need to grow with the world and age !

HAPPY THAT THIS HAS GONE GLOBAL !!!!

Happy that these bolgs have gone global........ amazed to see the response from all over the world !

Sharing things with all cultures and levels of  people is vey satisfying. Thanks to all world citizens for the response !

LIKE, LESSER PEOPLE !!!

Attention is a major issue for all.  Every one craves for attention.

When we are not confident, we move towards people of lesser qualities and education...This is because, we think , we will get appreciation from them, which may not be the case otherwise !

We make selections according to our confidence level

When we are not sure, we don't want to move with people of knowledge and experience.

This way, we lose out on the opportunity to learn and improve.

We should not think in terms of high and low as far as our social circle is concerned.

We should not be class biased and should not allow ourselves be surrounded by a particular level of people........ should be global in mind !

GET-TOGETHER FOR GOSSIP !!!

More often, get-togethers are organised to gossip than discussions/debate for constructive growth !

What a waste of time, the time , which is the rarest of resources !

People get easy pleasure from gossip.......... we like easy things, isn't it ?

FOCUS ON SELF IMPROVEMENT !!!

Our focus should be on self improvement and not on others.

The world has changed a lot and this is a world , which provides all sorts of opportunities to positive people.

FOCUS ON SKILLS !!

Any positive person can aquire skills , which will help to live well any where in the world.

Amazed to see the success stories of people from all walks of live, of all age and gender,  on some TV programs.

World is waiting for the positive people, who are willing to put in sincere effort !

THE REAL WEALTH !!!!

Education, the real education and right experience are the real wealth.
Any one can live any where with the above wealth.
Add on to the above is positive approach.

Even a bit of negativity negates all those qualities like the extra salt in a well prepared food !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THE ECONOMIC MESS !!!!

Lose financial policies and plastic money are the reason for the financial and economic mess in the whole world.

New/young materialistic generation were living beyond means and they were not intersted in boosting their earnings...........
they were not focussed on earnings, because they were getting easy credit .

How long can the governments and bank afford to do it ?

RESPECT EXPERIENCE AND KNOWLEDGE !!!!

We may hate them, but , we cannot ignore them.

Experienced and knowledgeable people are usually straight forward and sincere in their approach. Their opinions , often may not match with ours. This is due to vast difference in experience and knowlege.

There will be conflicts and disappointments due to this.............we like people whose opinions match with ours !!!!

But , for practical purpose, which one we should accept ?

The sweet talker's opinion or the experience ones?

It depends on our maturity and ego !

MOST IMPORTANT - PURPOSE SHOULD BE RIGHT !!

There has to be the right purpose behind all our decisions. If we are not sure of the purpose behind our action, we should hold it till we are clear about it.

As an accounts teacher, used to ask the students, ' do you know the purpose of preparing this account / statement '

If a student doesn't the purpose, he/she won't know what is being done;  of course, may be able to do byhearting it .

That would not help the person to repeat / implement in practical life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NOTHING TO BEAT EXPERIENCE !!!!

Experience in life is top on the list of personal qualities.

Nothing can substitute experience, the right kind of over all experience !

There are people, who say that they have 50 years experience and boast about it. 

But , the reality may be ' these people have ONE experience repeated over 50 years.'

When I suggested a new polish to a shoe polisher, his response was, ' son I have 50 years experience doing this '

All 50 years; he has been using the same old brand, and he is not even aware of the changes in the world !, but , his ego forces him to boast about 50 years experience !

When we select our advisors, we need to be careful! 

WE HAVE A TENDENCY TO GO BY THE PEOPLE ,WHOSE ADVICE MATCHES WITH OUR DESIRE, AND NOT NECESSARILY THE RIGHT ONE !

There lies the hidden risk/danger .

NO USE TALKING AFTER MAKING JUDGEMENTS !!!

There are situations ,where people have made judgements about others and their views............They judge the other persons view , much before the conversation is initiated.

These sort of things happen in all walks of life......waste of opportunities to learn !

BOTH TEACHER AND STUDENT !!!!

There are circumstances when a person plays dual role :

The same person answers his own questions.............. in this situation, the other person is shut out completely............ he doesn't get any opportunity to respond.

When this happens the person playing the dual role is missing out on the opportunity to learn.

When we take defensive step, we are putting ourselves in a poor situation , apart from putting the other person in a helpless situation .

Open mind only can help us to improve our life.

BIG LOSER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We lose out in life , in big way ,when we do not allow others to talk.We miss the wisdom of others, who care for us !

When we take decision based on hearsay, we end up in trouble.

Decisions should be based on a minimum common base and not on hearsay and according to over night experts !

When we make defencive,evasive statements about people, who can contribute to our knowledge, we are making ourselves the biggest losers !

The minimum basic thing that we should do to ourselves as a FAVOUR  :   DO NOT SHUT THE OTHER PERSON OFF COMPLETELY !!

Give an opportunity to the other person to talk freely.  This is the bare minimum one can do to oneself as the biggest gift.

GREATS ARE GREATS DUE TO PATIENCE......

We are excited to see the people being honored for their achievements.
We feel, why not us ?
But, we do not think about the years , efforts and patience , these people had coordinated, to be where they are to-day !
 It is nice to see many young people putting in sincere efforts to improve their lives, without blaming their unfavorable circumstances.
World has created opportunities for those who are willing to be positive.................. , thanks to the older generations for their generosity !

IT'S DISGUSTING ................

We have all the facilities to communicate from any corner of the world to any corner , any time.  But, still people don't communicate on time and properly.................................disgusting !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DUAL PERSONALITY !!!

We all carry two personalities.  One , we hide and don't reveal to others'

Another, we project to the world,which is often faked a lot !

Living like this is like a burden. It takes a lot of courage , conviction and experience to avoid this situation !

SAY WHAT YOU WANT & DON'T IMPRESS !

More often, people try to bring unwanted words an phrases in to their talk to impress/to make an effect on others.

This is the stupidest thing , one can do.  All are smart to understand things on their own.

We should focus on the topic , we want to talk and leave it !

BE MODERATE .......................

Extremism is not strength. It is in reality , a weakness. People attach undue importance to assertiveness.

It is always better to keep a moderate approach, which will help us to have a good overview about things around and absorb right things and reject unwanted things.

Extremism will take us to repentance.

3 THINGS , YOU SHOULD AVOID TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER !!!!

There are so many sensitive areas in relationships. Many points are not even worthy of bringing up.

1. Should not criticize partner's family, especially parnets.

2.  Should not praise own family too much .

      Both above points are not even worth bringing up on table !

3.  Should not try bringing over all change in other.  If necessary, suggest only one thing at a time, politely without hurting ego .

WE ARE DEFINITELY WEAK WHEN .................

We have weak moments in our life. When that happens often, we lose heart and the enthusiasm.

We are weak when we keep on justifying our mistakes !

When others point our mistakes , we should think about it positively and try to understand the probems.

Instead , if we try to justify things , we are inviting a situation of weakness.  We know , we are at fault , but we don't want to admit and change our course of action.

This causes conflicts within and that destroys our confidence  ! 

NEVER WAS SO GOOD !!!!!

Recession apart, life was never so good before.  This century is for those who really are positive and really want to live happilly !

But, one condition................... must be extremely positive. open minded & forward looking.

Must be thorough human being ...........................

MOVE ON ................

Wise people move on even after a fall.  Life is all about looking forward positively.

Play our part sincerely and rest will happen, if we have programmed positively !

WHY SHOULD WE SHY AWAY !!!

In this modern era, we do not need to shy away from things.

If we master the communication and  presentation skills , we will be comfortable in being open to things.

We are shy when we are not sure of ourselves and our knowledge !

LET.S SHUT OFF OUR MIND ABOUT OTHERS FOR 3 WEEKS !!

We , the human beings waste a lot of time talking, thinking negatively about others !  Major time is devoted for this.......

If we prevent this wastage of time, we will have enough time on our hand to do things constructively.

Let's give an exercise to our mind, ' not to think about others for next 3 weeks '.

If a break happens, it should be restarted afresh from the day of the break, for the fresh 3 week time !

Promise ,  it works wonders !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

YOU ARE NEVER LATE !!!!!

We , some times feel that we are late for some actions.

The beauty of this century is that, we are never late for any thing....... we can start any thing , if we are positive.

Instead of taking oneself to low state of mind, one should take action positively !

PLAYING FOOLISHLY SMART !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Negative people try to play smart by living behind a mask ! They have only one agenda, that is to cover up their undoings and inadequacies !

They think they are super smart, wow !     It's like cat drinking milk with closed eyes, thinking no one can see it !!!!!!!!!!!!!

DOESN'T BELIEVE , BELIEVE ONLY IN UNSEEN !!!!

There are people, who do not want to believe in the things infront of them.

Same people believe in the unseen or unproven things !!

People like to complicate their life and crib about them........easy to live with !!!!!!

IT'S HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD !!!!!

Nonsense, nonsense and nonsense.......... Here is a guy , who can't see any good things in this world !

This is because, he is not comfortable within himself !!!

Though, he is well-placed in life, his insecurity is due to inferiority complex.

Nothing works well for him , in this world .

His friend, who spends a lot of time with him, can't hear or see any thing bad about the world, when they are together !!!!!!!!!

That's how it is ...................... how we see or what we want to see !

WHAT A NONSENSICAL LIFE !!!!!!!

Here is a guy , who is not comfortable with his personality.
 So, what is the solution ? Bring others down !

He proclaims , he doesn't like girls because , they are weird and not trust worthy at all !!

All girls ? !

He pretends to avoid looking at them. He moves away from females !

In fact, he is the one , who is weird ! And not trust worthy in his statements.

In fact, his weird way of behavior is a calculated strategy to get attraction. If any girl talks by chance, the guy keeps dragging on the conversation with all efforts !!!


What a nonsensical way to live !

EXPECT NOT !!!!!!!!!!!!!

We can't expect every thing to go in our favor. This is not a negative statement.
It is a reality !  And people with high self esteem know what are realities and accept them without getting frustrated !
Others don't accept and this causes boiling one's own blood within !

How can we expect, all participants to win a race !

LOOK FOR ALTERNATIVES !!!

When we do not get the required result, we should be looking 
for the next best alternatives, of course after confirming that the first is not feasible.

Every new avenue is a enjoyable challenge in life. Without pleasurable challenges, the life is boring ! Let's be wise enough !

FRUSTRATIONS WEIGH US DOWN !!!

Why should we get frustrated ? There is no need for us to get frustrated.
When things do not work in our favour, we get frustrated ! Instead , we should find alternatives .
If every thing happens in our favour , there is no charm in our life !!!!

HUGE DRAIN ON YOUR ENERGY !!!!

Our bad habits bug us a lot. Knowing well too, we do not try to make changes for better.

This is a huge burden on our shoulders. If we have to measure this in terms of weight, we may be carrying a huge weight on us.

This weight is a huge drain on our energy !

So , it is time for us to change our bad habits to give relief to us , which our body and mind deserves !

INSIDE OUT LIVING...............MORE LOGICAL !!!

Inside out living is more logical and satisfying. Here in we are able to live all along.

Negative people do not do this and end up regretting later !

KEY TO SUCCESS !!!!

We need to take right people and the society along, if we want to succeed.

We cannot have even a bit of ego. Ego destroys our ability.  Ego
is the main reason for break downs !

Frequent break downs spoils us chances to succeed !

LEARNING NEW THINGS !!!!!

It took fairly long time before I started blogging. I was not sure of , how long this would happen.

I was not sure of the responses too.

But now , it is really a good feeling for :

1.  Thoughts come to my mind easily and want to share it with the

     world..........   i really feel like doing it daily !


2.  The surprise response......... the response is tremendous from

      all over the world... this has reached almost all countries !!!!!


I realise the importance of learning/doing new things , which are useful to self and others too !!!

REAL INDEPENDENCE !!!!!!

We need to use our thinking faculty positively to be completely feel independent.

We have enough resources and facilities in the world to-day.

We should use all resources and facilities to the maximum and keep a positive,healthy mind set.

When we train ourselves to use all that are available to us , we will feel the satisfaction of being independent !

MENTAL CHALLENGE !!!!

It takes about 3 to 4 weeks' time , if we want to change any thing about us .

We need to challenge our mind , if we want to make improvement in positive fields  !

NO ONE CAN BE GREAT WITHOUT OTHERS !!

Great people gather advisers to their side. No single person, by himself can be great without inputs and contribution from others.This great people know and they appoint a pool of advisers.

All advices may not be right . Some may have negative sides. But, the inputs from all sides and many help a person with positive and balance head to make his way up !

It's the same with families.............. some may not be right always , some may sound negative some time.............but , if things are put together with balanced head, we can make proper head way !

FAITH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Faith is essential quality , we should have.

We have to have faith in us first.  But, this shlould not be taken

as stubbornness.  Moderation is always better !

Faith in unknown people is dangerous !

IT'S NOT MAGIC, IT'S THE QUALITIES !!!!

We often wonder, how some people are more successful and happy. There is no magic to it.

Successful and happy people add qualities to their personality.
They know the importance of the qualities.

They take care of themselves first, set the right mindset and then work hard !

Any one with the willingness to do so can achieve their goals.

IF ONLY '' ONE WISH '' IS ALLOWED !!!!

If only one wish, '' would go for unity in the family '' !

IF I AM TO GIVE ONLY ONE ADVICE !

I do not advise any one because, advices never help many !

Still , if I am to give only one advice :  ' Never compare yourself

with any one ' !

IF I AM GIIVEN, ONLY ONE POINT TO TEACH !!!

If I am not given choices to teach - I mean, if I am asked to teach only one point -  

I would say, " never hold any grudge over any one ".

We should not break relationship of whatsoever . The grudge is

 like a poison in our system. It will destroy the holder only, 

doesn't matter, however right he/she is !!!

TOO BIASED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We are too biased towards many things, which work as stumbling blocks in our journey to happiness !

Many biased towards culture.  This Feeling doesn't allow us to live with the right people , who we know are the right people, still..............

Many give too much importance to age, and this creates wide gaps between people, even when we feel good with them !

THE REAL MEANINIG !!!!!!

We are so lazy that we often do not try to get in to the real meaning of words !

Many mistake positiveness for saying , 'yes' to every thing.

Be yourself, is mistaken for stubbornness ..

Assertiveness is mistaken for aggression      etc.

We may read or hear many things , but do not bother to understand the real meaning and that leads to more confusions ! 

WHAT BOY FRIENDS DO NOT' LKE TO HEAR !!!

My boss is the sweetest person in my life !

My mother did not have to work for her living !

My ex-boy friend was the best performer, I know !

3 THINGS ,YOU SHOULDN'T TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND !!!!

1. I earn more than you !

2. He looks more atheletic than you !

3. It's okay, if you c a n' t   !

3 , THINGS FOR PERSONAL GROWTH !!!!

The following 3 points should be followed for personal growth :

1. Egoless :  Ego is the biggest enemy to our personal growth.

                     If we want to grow , we need to leave bad ego.

2. Flexible :  We should be open to accepting good things from

                      others. So too, we should be open to leave

                      negatives from our system completely

3. Positive :  We should be positive althrough, out and out.

                      Even, a dot of negativity acts like poison in food .

REACH OUT TO THE WORLD !!!!!!

We are living in a world where we can reach out to the world.

Many don't make an effort to do so. People like to live in a world of comfort zone !

When we don't try reaching out , we are losing out on the charm of living in this century !

Open up to the world !

SCARED OF SUBSTANCE AND LEAD BY HOLLOWNESS !!!

We are scared of substance because we are scared of unknown !

We follow hollow things because, there is nothing scary !

Even when we find some thing beneficial or useful, we do not persist with those things because we are lazy and letharigic !

WHAT A WAY TO WASTE LIFE !!!!!!!

Know many , who lead their life by the forecasts appearing in media.

People with high qualifications believe in such things ! They style their life accordingly.

There can't be any other worse way to waste our life and lose our personality !

These sorts of influence take away originality from a person which leads to non development of charisma !

WHEN WE DON'T , WE DEPEND ON OTHERS !!!!!

When we don't want to do things for ourselves, we depend on others.

When we don't educate ourselves, we go to the so called gurus, who can't even read or write or even speak appropriately !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And , we follow them blindly, leading a passive life and hallucinating about life beyond  !

SLAVES TO ADVERTISEMENTS !!!!

Advertisements are good because that's how we come to know what all things are available to us.

Beyond availability , it doesn't serve any purpose.

It mis-leads people , who have weak minds. People try so many things and get disappointed often.

That's where , we have to study things to know what works and what doesn't .

LOOKS DOMINATE OVER HEALTH !!!!!

We do exercises for good look mainly and not for health !

Know people , who have chronic problems doings particular exercises, still continue with it .

They are worried about losing their good look.

Again, the efficiency of the body depends on the condition and not the way it is shaped or toned !

Should give importance to efficiency !!!!

LIVING IN A WORLD OF MIS-CONCEPTIONS !!!!!

Our biggest hurdle to improvement and happy living is the number of mis-conceptions we carry along our life time.

It may be about any thing, any aspect or any one !

These pre-judged conceptions stand as stumbling block in our road to prosperity and happiness !

CHARISMA TAKES YOU TO PLACES !!!!!!

Charisma is one thing that will take us to places. Many things can be achieved with this quality.

But, in order to have charisma, we need to work a lot. It doesn't happen over night.  

Guidance can be given as to how this can be achieved, but a lot of persistent effort is necessary.

Charisma cannot be faked ! 

THE BODY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Charisma comes with attractive body.......... don't mean a toned body or a gym body !

With the superb confidence , the person walks easily giving no tension to the body ............... no body language classes can teach this because, the body language has to come with the confidence.

The classes teach you to fake !

THE CONFIDENT " EYE "

The confidence is not to be flashed. It will be displayed in the eye of the person. 

Confident person sets his/her eyes appropriately. Appropriate eye contact adds charisma to the person !

IN-BUILT CALMNESS !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Extremely confident person carry an in-built calmness in his system. He/She focus on the conversation, absorb things, and use them to the right way and right cause !

The serene appearance and approach dis-arms others automatically .......... this is the real charisma !

RAISING VOICE ................

Confident person does not raise voice in conversation. He/she won't have an agenda to score points. 

When we want to score points, we raise our voice to shut the other person down.

Every conversation is like a learning class !

CONFIDENCE IS NOT TO BE CONFUSED WITH ARROGANCE !!

There are some lines between confidence and arrogance.

Some people say, that they will do any thing without giving enough thought. The thoughts are necessary for analysis in a positive way.

Confident person will try to do things after giving enough positive thoughts. He would try to do things for himself and not to prove a point.  

He will know when to withdraw without making loss. He would never feel bad too about the withdrawal.........won't think about loss of face..........no ego problems !

AGREE OR DIS-AGREE..............NO NEED TO FIGHT '''''

We may agree or dis-agree with others. It's just a matter of differnce in perception.

We should leave things at that . There is no need for fight.

All fights are the end products of bad ego.

CAN'T AFFORD PERSONAL DIFFERENCES....

We may have difference of opinion with others. But, that should not be taken to personal difference.

We can't afford to have clash of personalities.

YOU ARE MATURED WHEN ...............................

You are matured when :

you are able to re-connect with some one with whom you had a show-down........ without carrying the old grudge and baggage.

you are able to discuss things with others positively to know different point of view , which will help you in making decisions.

you are able to forgive yourselves for your mistakes.

you are able to forgive others and forget the past.

ALL THESE YOU ARE ABLE TO INITIATE FROM YOUR SIDE WITHOUT HURTING YOUR OWN EGO !

SELF EDUCATION & INDEPENDENCE !!!!

Self education helps us to use our thinking faculty properly.
 Without this , many depend on the teachings of the people, who claim to have divine knowledge.

Met many, who were programmed to lead a particular life style, which is passive !

The people, who teach others to give up all material things for contentment, lead a materially luxurious life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Self education helps us to think for ourselves, using the knowledge we gather ourselves and from others.

This way , no one has to approach any one to design one's life !

SELF EDUCATION ONLY WILL CLEANSE US !!!!!

Educational institutions of to-day help us to earn for our living.
They do not teach any thing more than that, like respecting every human being , especially elders, & parents .

So too, they do not help us to broaden our mental horizon in all aspects of life.

Therefore , the only way to make up for the deficiencies of the system is self education.

Self education helps us to view things in the right perspective, which in turn cleanse our mind .

We will be able to have a clear vision about human life .

NO ONE IS BORN WITH THE SPIRIT.............

Spirit to live should be seen in the right context here . I am not referring to any other spirit within or so.

Spirit to live should be taken , in a lighter way as the will to live.
The will to live life to the full is created by individuals and no one, is born with that ! 

WE DIE , WHEN OUR SPIRIT TO LIVE DIES !!!

The real death happens, when our spirit to live dies.  Spirit has nothing to do with the age.

In fact, with the experience gathered over the years, one should be more spirited to live the life full !!

Ageing should be converted to our advantage !

NO END TO LIFE !!!!!!!!

One should live without fear of death. We need to live with the hope of living for ever and no end to life.

That should be the spirit to live with............ we can start any thing new and pursue things at any age.......... age is immaterial for beginning some thing new, learning, work or relationships or creating family !!!!!

HAPPINESS IS CREATED ............

Happiness is when we feel that we are in the best of ambiance, especially mental ambiance.

We need to concentrate on creating the best vibe in the family. Nothing can substitute our own family . Each and every one in the family must know ' how to forgive and forget ' philosophy.

We should live with the philosophy at any cost , if we want to be happy. 

THE JOY OF SHARING !!!!!

The ultimate happiness in life , when we share our joy with family , primarily and the society.

Many wealthy people,after taking care of their families, contribute their wealth,time and effort to the society.

 They don't do it for appreciation.............. they know the real joy of life !. 

LET ANY THING HAPPEN .................

We cannot escape our responsibilities towards our parents and society. People may say many excuses about their circumstances. So too,  many have silly excuses like the society or even parents did not contribute to their living !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Responsibility is not conditional....... let any thing happen/ happened, we can't escape responsibility.

Only brutally  selfish  can avoid responsibilities !!!

ALLOTTING TIME OF LIFE !!!!

Like we divide our food habits to break-fast, lunch and dinner in percentage (many may not be doing it !), we should divide our time of life too.

May be 40% to self and family, 30% to our beloved parents,20% to our society and rest to nature and animal kingdom !

It's up to individuals to decide.  But, we cannot forget any of the above.

The biggest problem ,  people face is old age and many are not willing to take care of their own parents . It's the tragedy of development........ people become financially independent and they don't need their parents as much as in olden days, where we were living together !

ALL THE WORLD IS A LEARNING STAGE !!!!

If we are keen to educate ourselves, there are plenty of opportunities.

We can learn from sports people , their approach , when they are down.

We can learn from performers, their dedicated rehearsals and practise.

We may learn from politicians, especially Indians..............  There are no permanent enemies and so too no permanent friends............  they tie up with any party any day, so too they break up with any party any day !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WELL, I CAN !!!!!!!!!!

When we reach a stage of complete positivity, we develop this 

feeling of , '  I can ,' even when things are not working in our 

favour.

This  particular quality, we can see with great teams and sports

people.  They do not lie low even when they are down in points.

They make big come back , they are able to do so only because, 

they don't let themselves go down mentally.............but, same 

time , they are not arrogant !

NO NEED TO WORRY ABOUT INFLATION !!!!!!

Our experiences are rock solid . The only asset, which is not

vulnerable to inflation is our experience.

Experience can take us to any where in the world . It gives us

the affordability to lead a life of our choice !!!

SAD , WE DON'T INTERACT !!!!

During a sort of interviewing  people, I realised the sad fact ,that in many countries/cultures people don' interact much !

They don't make an effort, because people think it weird to start a conversation !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THE FLOW !!!!!!

Good thoughts flow in to you, if you are positive. You need to make a habit of writing , interacting with positive people regularly to happen this !

Just thinking without actions would not work !

You need to put in to action , straight away !!!

THAT'S HOW OUR MIND WORKS !!!!!

The more we write, read and think positively , our body and mind create a sort of success engine withing us!

This cannot be explained............ can experience only !

These non stop blogs about positive thinking has helped me to

experience what I said above.................  i just thought , i should

share this knowledge and nice feelings with the world .

Am sure to add a lot of positive people all along !!!!

AGEING MAKES US MORE RESOURCEFUL !!!

We are more resourceful with ageing.

With scientific, technological developments we are in a position to live with lots of experience with young hearts !

Isn't that a beautiful combination available to us ?  Well, well,

we need to be ultra positive in our mind to realise this !

AGEING IS NOT DISADVANTAGE !!!!!!!

We worry too much about ageing. I too had.

But, ageing is to our advantage, provided we use it properly.

If we gather all experiences all along, we will be better equipped to improve the quality of our life.

NEED COURAGE TO SUCCEED !!!!

It's easy to fail........... I do not use the term failure, personally though !

But  to succeed,  one must be very courageous. Must have moral courage, must have the courage not to abuse others !

EXPERIENCE IS YOUR DEPENDABLE " A T M "

Any one may become bankrupt any time. We have seen it happened with many well known people.

But, most of them have bounced back. They have become richer than their old self !!!

What made them come back is their experience and positive

attitude !!!!


WE SHOULD NOT MISS ANY OPPORTUNITY TO

LEARN !!!

STRONG REMAIN POSITIVE !!!

Mentally strong people remain positive. They never are confused.  They know that they can tackle any situation if only they remain positive.

When situations demand, they rise to them and take all challenges positively !

POSITIVES ARE STRONG !!!!

Positive people know that there are solutions for every thing.

They don't consider any thing to be a problem, they take every thing as situation.

They know , they can tackle situations if they use all their resources, mainly experience.

WE CAN LIVE ON OUR EXPERIENCES.  EXPERIENCE IS

MORE POWERFUL THAN MONEY.  EXPERIENCE CAN

CREATE WEALTH !!!!!!

IT'S VISCIOUS CIRCLE !!!!

Once, negative you are always negative ! Negativity gives temporary relief from any thing. This temporary benefits leads to chain actions. So you want to remain in this circle, by yourself !

The other way, people won't be able to relate with negative people easily. This creates more problems. It becomes like a viscous circle !

Negative people may change to positives, if only they taste the joy of being positive !  It takes time


Met many who were superstitious .  The same people, after vast experiences turn to be very practical and they lecture against the superstitions for the benefit of the society.

Negative people, after change to positives do the same ! 

NEGATIVES ARE SOFT HEARTED !!!!!!!!

Negative people are soft hearted. They become negative because they are not strong enough to accept some realities.

They turn to negatives expecting easy escape route.

But, things become worse for them , when people can't understand them !!!

TALK, TALK ,TALK AND TALK !!!!!!!

When things go wrong, instead of breaking communication, we should keep talking.

Keep talking to find common grounds, and not to score points !!

This will save a lot of relationships !

WE THINK , WE KNOW ALL !!!!!

We give up reading and learning after a particular stage. We think,enough is enough, we know every thing !

Now , things are the same, no more new things to learn !

This is how , we let ourselves down.

There are very many things to learn always, in this universe !

TIMELY COMMUNICATION !!!!!!

We are lazy about many things.  People don't communicate on time, though we have all the facilities to do so !

Timely communication can save a lot of things, especially the relationships.

OPEN TO DIFFERENT CULTURES !!!!

We should have an open approach to different cultures.

We should try to learn the cultures.  This will help us to gather

the best of all cultures.

Mastering cultures help us to break away from the web created

in the mind , by ignorance.

OUR MIND WORKS LIKE PARACHUTES !!!!!

Parachutes work only when they are opened.


Our mind too, works appropriately, only when they are fully

opened !

NO ONE IS KEEN TO LEARN ABOUT LIFE !!!!

We know that ,we have to earn for our living, rather survival !

We are not keen to learn about the real way to enjoy life. Life is not about earning and spending time till the end.

There are ways to reach a level of mind , where we can find ourselves to be relaxed , calm and happy !

If we know, how to integrate all aspects to the above mind, we will find the real happiness !

IMBALANCE IN ATTITUDE !!!!

The difference of opinion happens due to the difference in attitudes of people.

No two persons are on the same level positively or negatively.

Similarity attracts, but there are no perfect similarity among positive or negative people.

This is the main reason for the differences !

DON'T RESPECT TIME ?

No body has time for any thing but, still no body respects other's time !!!!!!

No body returns call, mails on time !!!!

Timely communications only will help healthy relationship !

SMART PEOPLE LISTEN MORE !!

It's common that people prefer to talk , when it is a choice between talk and listen.

But smart  people prefer listening to talk.........listening is much more difficult than talking !

LAZY TO EDUCATE SELF !!!!!

Self education is a made out to be a difficult task, in general.

People take it as a big project and don't find time for it .

We don't need time for this because, we can learn from every walk of life and from every one we meet/ live with

IT'S A MATTER OF SELF ESTEEM !!!!

Wife to her friend, 'my husband does not want me to drive, he is scared.'

Husband, ' I fix every thing she wants within 10 of her call, then what's the fuss ?'

Well, both the parties , even the wife here, are unaware of the fact that the real issue  is self esteem !

If  the wife is allowed to drive, her self esteem gets a boost.  This is the real thing  that is the reason for conflict !

Any thing , we do/ don't do affect our self esteem............. we are often unaware of this fact !

NO SOUL IS BAD & SO TOO NONE IS PERFECT !!

No one is born bad . When people are not confident to tackle situations, they try to take easy routes.  These easy routes are generally negative.

Negativity breeds the feeling of being ' bad '.

As long as some one operates from the negative base, we label them as bad , it is a sad thing !!!!!!!!

What we should do is to patiently and persistently try to show the positive routes.

People operating from positive base are labelled as good.

This gives us an idea that , no one is completely bad , so too no one is perfect............. unless of course , some one has found out his own soul !!


So called bad people can be good , the moment they turn to positive side...................... hence there is hope and scope  !

THE SOUL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We give different definitions to different things.

Some say soul never dies and it is seated at the centre of forehead inside

What is soul or is there any thing called soul ? People say soul is pure !

If we can feel our own deep self and if, that feeling is spread through our cells and systems with purity and positivity , the entire self may be called as pure soul !!

It is the greatest feeling one can ever achieve in a life time !

Need a lot of determined practise !

GO DEEP IN TO SELF !!!

One should go deep in to oneself and know what are the real needs. And , act according to the real needs.

When we live by our instincts and temporary needs , we are getting confused and become unsatisfied.

Must bring the positivity and relaxation in to daily life !

MUST REALISE, OTHERS ARE AS INTELLIGENT TOO !!!!

Two types of people :

1. Over smart................  in fact they are not smart at all, still think others are stupid !

2. Negative ............. they too think , others are stupid and so they can play games with others and get away from their issues !

No body should think of scoring points in life.......

ASK , " HOW HONEST ARE YOU "

Self honesty takes us to a long way in life. It gives us a lot of self assurance in our life.

Therefore,  ask yourself ' how honest are you when you make any statements about yourself ".

LET'S NOT PLAY HIDE & SEEK GAMES !!!!

Confident people never play hide and seek games. 

They acknowledge the fact that ' all are smart enough to understand ' the motives of each and every, however cleverly they try to cover up .

Confident people respect others. intelligence and communicate with openness.  They never try to hide behind any mask.

Mask may help us to cover up a bit , but then the same mask will suffocate us !

I AM NOT WHAT I SAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We make a lot of statements about us like :

'  I am a honest  person .'   

 Honest person does not have to make

 such statement... means I am not honest !

' I don't like to be in relationship '. 

 Means, I want to be in

relationship but, not confident of getting into one !

I MEAN I CAN'T , WHEN I SAY, " I DON'T WANT "

Our ego doesn't allow us to admit our lack of self confidence !

We repeatedly say, " I don't want to do this/ that ", when we

feel, not so confident about ourselves.

I don't want means I am not sure of myself !

The only way to get out of this situation , where we really want some thing, but are not comfortably confident, is to admit the fact . This will help us to clear the block in the mind.

When we try to fool others, we only are making fool of ourselves................... and we only lose out in the life !!!

MENTAL GROWTH & HEALTH !!!!

The mental agility helps us to have a healthy life. It boosts our physical ability too.

This is because, the origin of all our activity is our mind. When our mind decides the action, body obeys the orders.

Look at Sachin Tendulkar, who is steadily making improvements with age . Mind you, cricket is physically very , very demanding !!

His best is yet to come for sure, because he never doubted about, when to retire. The moment retirement idea comes in to the mind, things will fallen apart.

What is appealing is that all these performances are after so many injuries and operations.

That gives us an idea about mental growth and power !

People die earlier than they should , due to lack of interest  in life !

MENTAL GROWTH IS FOR EVER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Physical wear and tear happens with the age.

But this deterioration does not happen to our mental powers.

If we are positive, ageing can be used to our advantage, experience helps us to use our mental powers wisely and take it to new heights !!!

HUMAN BEINGS LAG BEHIND TECHNOLOGY !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Technology develops fast. This is made possible by a few people , who are motivated to work.

Unfortunately, we are lagging behind by many years in our approach.

Technology , sometimes makes us lazy and over dependent.

This takes away challenges for our brain !

NO NEED TO RETIRE !!!!!

The opportunities and facilities help the people to continue with work.
There are so many diverse lines available, which makes the life easy and enjoyable for every one, provided people have a heart to enjoy !

BURN OUTS !!!!!!

Burn out happens with many at very young age.

When children start every thing at the age of 10 on wards, they are bound to get stuck at stages.

Saturation and boredom comes in to their life even during teen age.

Many admit that there is nothing new that they have yet to do !

This situation is dangerous because, it may lead to waste of human resource.

At resourceful age , these people become passive !

NO SCOPE FOR CHILD-HOOD TIME !!!

New generations are being born in to adult hood straight away !

Children don't get many years to be children. Children are forced to mature as early as possible. If they don't , there is a danger of being left behind their peers !

This notion creates a lot of confusion and problems for the new era parents.
They don't know how to go about it.

MUST BE AWARE OF OUR COMMONSENSE !!

It is sad that we often are unaware of our own common sense.

We are so careless and lazy to use our own common sense.

People utter any nonsense and do any stupid things because they ares so lazy to think for a second before acting !

SUSTAINING GROWTH AND STANDARD !!!!

It is important to maintain a standard,for creating reliability and genuineness !

We learn many things from books, people , seminars, workshops etc., but we do not maintain the things that we  learnt .

This is why I say, techniques learnt won't work. It is the knowledge that makes the difference to life !

The knowledge, taken in side will remain for ever and our behaviour will be automatically modified accordingly .

CASUAL ATTITUDE !!!!

We are doing an injustice to ourselves, when we approach our life in a casual way.

Not suggesting that we should be extra serious in all aspects.

All that I mean is about sincere approach to create the best out of every situation !

COMMUNICATION.... WE SHOULD NOT PUSH ....

We try to bring a stress in communication in order to convince our view point.

This sort of pushy tone is a big put off in any relationship !

WORLD CITIZEN DAY !!!

This is an ideal era for broad minded people to celebrate ' world citizen day !'

Broad minded attitude will definitely make it easy to get out of the economic mess, created by narrow minded leaders of particular countries.

It's time to think global and global benefits rather than getting in to the rat race for number one !

Most of the personal problems too will go away, when people try to integrate the best of all cultures !!

This is the only way to create a happy world.

We should decide a day and plan a big celebration !!!

ART OF COMMUNICATION !!!

We are at best , when we are sincere and natural.

When we try to make other happy by being dishonest to self, it may have a negative effect on the listener...........

Therefore, it is better to be honest and sincere to self while communicating with others !

IT'S EASIER !!!!!!

It is easier to be positive, in to-day's time. It is easy because , we can communicate with any one in the world, any time and we have a lot of things that we can concentrate on.

Self development is easier , compare to olden days.

Communication with unknown too is possible to day through net.  We have the facilities !

CLASS DIFFERENCE & DISCRIMINATION !!!!

We all evolve, even if we don't make an effort. But the speed of evolution will be different between two persons.

This difference, over the years will create class difference and that may cause a bit of discrimination point.

If we evolve positively, we would not face this problem !

NEXT LINE OF DISCRIMINATION !!!!!!!!

Very good percentage of people are turning out to be completely positive.

But unfortunately, many are scared to do so.

In the coming years , there may two classes of people- positive and negative !

This may be the discrimination point in the coming generations !

THE MOST COMPLICATED !!!!!!!

We the human beings accumulate a lot of negativity. Negativity generates a lot of temporary pleasure for us. It is an easy process.

So too, negativity gives us the liberty to blame others for all our undoings and weaknesses. This gives us a secured feeling whenever our integrity is threatened.

It is like a place, where we can find security whenever we want.

Removing the negativity, which we hang on for our safety and changing in to totally positive it the most complicated thing for an ordinary person !

PURE BODY AND MIND !

Human body and mind have extra ordinary powers.

This can be tapped only by maintaining cleanliness and purity.

The above part is the difficult  one.

Since we do not want to forgo temporary benefits by being negative, we do not achieve the purity part.

This negativity is the hurdle that we have to cross , if we want to perform at the peak !

Peak  performers know this and so they concentrate on what they have to do and do not divert their mind on others.

IT'S A LONG WAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reaching high level of mind and the ultimate state is a long way for any.

The reason is that , we all are negative most of the time.

As long as we carry , even a dot of negativity, it contradicts with our goal.

Contradictions within the same system/ constitution will not work.

We want to keep a bit of negativity because , that gives us the easy escape route !

POSITIVE VISUALISATION............

Positive visualisation helps us in many ways - for achieving goals , health etc.

First condition is that the complete process has to be positive.

Any negative in the process will take away the require result.


Most important thing :

We can't have contradictions within us. Means, we can't get required result only by being positive, when we want some thing, and negative for rest of the time !

This is a wild contradiction !

SHOWING REBELLION I S NOT GREATNESS !!!

Immature and negative people think that being weird and rebel, will bring some sort of greatness.
What a pity !

Great people are more integrated in to the society and they are very sociable . All these come to them easily ,because they do not try to manipulate things .

GREAT PEOPLE ARE HUMBLE !!!

Reaching greatness is impossible without the contribution from other human beings. This is known to the great people . That exactly is the reason for their being humble.

Their being humble is their unique way of acknowledging the contributions and very existence of all human beings present and past !

ASK WHAT WE CAN DO ...........................

If we all ask ,what we can do to ourselves, family, society and the world , we would be motivated to do much !

Mostly  we think about, what others can do to us. Since  it is not in our control, we won't feel motivated to do our part !

AMAZING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's a beautiful feeling to know that the blogs are reaching all over the world, and this is being done from a small part of the world.

Till some years ago , never thought such a thing would happen.

It's not amazing now but ,  ''''''''''''''''''''

THE BEST THING ABOUT LIFE !!!!!

In to-day's time, we can self educate any time, at any age.

So too, we can improve on our level of life by continuous learning which is possible on a daily basis.

All that one has to have is a positive approach to live well !

We should salute our forefathers for all conveniences, we have to day !

It is our responsibility to use them and contribute further !