NOT READY IN LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our preparation should be an on-going and continuous thing.

There are many , who wait for some thing to happen , for them to prepare, for the event.

The fact of the matter is that , we can't prepare after happening of the event............means , we miss the opportunity in life.

After missing the opportunity, we complain about every one , every thing and our bad luck.

This mistake is being repeated by many, through out their life.

PLAYING ,GOOD BOY, GOOD GIRL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all want to be seen as , ' good boy ', or ' good girl '. 

That is fine.............but , if we are doing every thing, with the above intention only, then there is a question mark about our sincerity !

Those who do good things , naturally , will stand out in the crowd, without them knowing it !

We need to develop an in-built mechanism, to do good things, very naturally.................without having the agenda to project the good boy/girl image .

EGO OVERSHADOWS EVERY THING ELSE !!!!!!!!!!!

Some one may be extremely loving, caring and helpful .

But, when ego dominates, all the other good things are over-shadowed.

If a person carries all good qualities, to satisfy his/her own ego, the purpose  defeats oneself !!!

ATTITUDE IS WHAT MATTERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We may have talents, we may have potential, we may have resources, but, all these go waste, if, we don't have the right kind of attitude.

Without positive attitude, we can't do justice to our potential.

The main difference between successful and others, are the positive attitude !!!

LIFE IS ALWAYS ABOUT GOOD PARTNERSHIPS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Life is always about the best of partnerships.No individual member can claim victory of a team............it is always , a team that wins and not an individual !!

Scoring goal in a football match is that wins the match........but , no one can score a goal without being facilitated by all other members of the team !!!!!!!!!!

People with, low self esteem only will claim credit for themselves, whenever they score points in life ......... 

It is important to be in a team and in partnerships , starting with family.........as charity begins at home, it should begin at home .

ACCEPTING GOOD THINGS .......................

Accepting good things, like love, help, appreciation etc. from others , need self confidence/self esteem.

People of low self esteem, are not comfortable in asking for help.........so too, not comfortable , when they are being loved.

They think, that , such things happen , when they are weak...........and , they don't want to portray themselves to be weak !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

EXPOSURE COMPLICATES LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Too much exposure complicates our life..........we get confused with the options available to us.

Unless we match our mental growth with the type of exposure, we will be lot more unhappy with the choices available to us.

This confusion was not with the older generations, since, they had limited options, and they were living by the roles , that they were supposed to play...........less complications !!!!!!!!!!!!

''YOU ARE WITH ME'', IF ONLY.................................

There are people , who put lots of conditions in relationships.

There are such people , who want their friends to be living in the circle itself.

Such people are not comfortable, when their friends interact with people, who they are not friendly with.

' You are either with me , or with my enemy ', is the approach of these people.

These people retain the school children- mindset !!!!!!!!!!!!!

SMARTER THAN OTHERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When we think , that we are smarter than others, we are not smart at all !!

Every one is , some way or other way, smart .

The one who thinks to be smarter than others , is not smart enough to understand the reality !!!

This leads to all sort of foolishness !

LIFE ,MEANS DIFFERENT THINGS TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE !!!!!!!!!

Don't think , there is a common definition for ,''life''.

For different people , life may mean differently.

But, the one thing, that every one may be looking for , could be satisfaction and happiness.

It all depends on, the way one perceives.

These perceptional difference lead to difference between two minds.................

ASK, AND DO NOT QUESTION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wise people ask questions to others with positive intentions:

to clarify things,

to gain experience .

Others do not ask questions............they question others as if :

They know all , 

and to let other person know about it.

The ultimate loser is  ?

MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT, ''LISTENING''.

There are many misconceptions about listening. 

1.  Listening means , saying , 'yes' to every thing that the person, talking .

2.  Listening means, supporting on each and every point , the person, talking .

In simple terms, the speaker expects blind support and agreement from the other person !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The real listening involves , exchange of view points, for mutual benefits .

COLLECTIVELY , WE SURVIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all want to be independent..........good in many aspects....should be so.

But, our survival, with all happiness, depends on our willingness for cooperation.

Too much of individualism, leads to many short-comings in life, which will shake the foundation of happiness.

Experience teaches us the importance of cooperation, for the benefit of self ,all and the world itself !!!!!!!!!!!!

IMMATURE AND CHALLENGE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Immature people try to challenge others.........this is to prove their own worth.

More over they try to prove, that others are not worthy.

Mature people do not challenge others ........they have gone beyond that level of mind to think small !!!

Mature people don't even challenge themselves......they know what to do in life, and they do it with all honesty and sincerity !!!

This is how they attain peace and happiness !!!!!!!!!!!!

BEING A STUDENT RATHER THAN A TEACHER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Life would be interesting and easy , if we remain as a student , through out our life time.

There is some thing, for all of us to learn, every minute, every day, which makes our life better and better.

Immature people, stop learning at the earliest time in life........because , they are in a hurry to teach others.

This hurry to teach others take their focus from learning, and, they remain that much ill equipped, to handle their life.

Let us share , if at all , rather than teaching others...........because , no one is ever is a complete master for teaching !!!

GREAT AND HUMBLE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Great are humble.  This is because, they have nothing to prove. They live the life in pursuit of whatever they think, they can do for themselves and the society.........they do it , because they love it.

When we achieve the state of mind, where , we think , we don't have to prove , we automatically do every thing naturally.........we feel like using our talents and time for the world.

If we think , the other way, ie. when we are humble , we are on the path to greatness.

Being humble, we throw ourselves in to the happy world !

EASY TO ABUSE, DIFFICULT TO APOLOGISE !!!!

When we are low in confidence, abuse comes the easiest way.

So too , apology becomes the most difficult thing .

Confident and mature people never abuse others.....so too , 

they would express regret and say apology, without being 

hurt !!!      Absence of ego helps them do this !

IMPOSSIBLE TO BRING DOWN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our worth depends on what we do and not on what others say about us.

Short tempered and immature people try to bring down others , when they have difference of opinions and heated debates.

This rebounds on those, who try to harm others  !!!!!!!!

The thrown mud doesn't stick on others !

MANY MANY FALLS BEFORE THE FIRST WALK !!!!!

A baby falls many times , while learning to walk.

After every fall , baby gets up with a smile, and take another new step, with positive determination.

Thank god, baby does not have ego.

Since, baby is free from the bad ego, the baby move forward, without being hurt .

We can shed our ego, if we take our mind to such innocent , but high level..................this help us to achieve ..........achieve for ourselves and lead a happy life !!!

NO PRAISE, NO LOVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low self esteem live on others' praise.

They do not function without being praised !

'' If you deny praise, I deny love '', is their attitude .

Low self esteem is the cause for this sad attitude .

FOR OR AGAINST ?

The intention of acquiring knowledge is very important.

If the intention itself is wrong, the knowledge too, turns out to be wrong.

If we seek knowledge to use against others, or , with an intention to argue with others, we are missing the real essence of knowledge !!!

Knowledge is for our own improvement !

GIVE PAIN , GET IT BACK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People try to pain others, when they are low in self confidence.

But, what they don't understand is, that the pain comes back , even stronger way...........it rebounds on the givers.

Instead of focusing on pain, which is a negative attitude, should focus on improvements !!!!!!!!!!!

WHY ARE WE IN PAIN ?

We experience pain, often.

No body wants to be in pain !

The one and the only reason, for our common pain, is our bad ego.

The bad ego forces us to live in denials . It prevents us from moving forward in all aspects of life.

Bad ego tells us that , we can be happy , if only we get what we want ............ the world should adjust with us.

Bad ego compels us to remain inactive !!!!

This prevent us from making positive efforts.

FEAR OF LOVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all want to be loved. But, often, we are not ready for accepting love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We fear , being loved, when we feel that the love brings some obligations along with it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We feel that, we may be obliged to do some thing in return !!!

This is what happens , when we have low / no self esteem !

BEING HUMAN !!!

'' Being human '', is the biggest challenge for any ' human being '!!!

It is the responsibility of any human being to lead the life, ' being human' in all aspects.

No one can claim to be a real human being , without being human !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CELEBRATING BIRTH DAYS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Celebrating more and more birth days doesn't mean any thing , other than ageing !

It is sad that many people, with ageing do not gain in experience.

Such people remain the same as far as internal development is concerned.

If we do not try to acquire the right kind of knowledge , with the right intention to use it for our own growth, we won't feel comfortable in life.

If our intention is to use the knowledge against others, we are actually failing ourselves !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here is where , we need to be really matured !

SINGLE POINT LEADING TO MAXIMUM BREAK-UP IN RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Break-up, may be temporary, happens in all relationships !

The one and the most important reason for such break-up 

is '' not growing up in relationship ''.

One person doesn't grow up ......when this happens, the other

person feel the frustration.

This continuous frustration causes break-up in relationships......

..................relationship of any sort :--

between                      girl friend - boy friend

                                  husband - wife

                                 brothers

                                 sisters

                                 friends

                                 parent - child

EVEN A CHILD NEED TO GROW UP ACCORDING TO

HER/HIS AGE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Living without awareness and not having the desire to have

knowledge is the reason for this........

Update on living and knowledge !

HUNGER FOR APPRECIATION !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!W

We all have an appetite for appreciation.......every body wants it on a daily basis.

But, with maturity , we know, we need to work with good intentions, whether we get appreciation or not. Our work is not based, only on appreciations, we have  to lead a life with responsibility too !!!!

MATURITY DOESN'T ALLOW US TO SIT IDLE, WAITING FOR SOME ONE'S APPRECIATION TO START WORK.

Immature people live in glass houses, with the appreciations filled...................doing nothing..............wasting their time !!!

WE ONLY FAIL OURSELVES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We only can fail ourselves, by our mind set.

When we think , we are a failure , we are a failure...........

This thought of being failed , fails us.

No one else can fail us.

This doesn't mean, that , we can sit idle, doing nothing and hallucinate that we are fine, and are successful.

We don't have to attach too much importance to  words like, failure and success.

All that we have to do, in this world of opportunity is, to work for a better life............this attitude brings us what we look for !!!

When we try to prove that we are this or that to others , we are losing focus on what we have to do !!!!!!!!

GOOD PARENTING..........

In this world of abundance, parents overfeed their children.

They give all that a baby cries for .

These babies remain babies, when they grow up..........they grow up physically only !!!

These people continue with their cries, expecting to get more and more from parents !

The cries may take ugly turns like abuse and showing tantrums !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FEED THEM WITH LESS FOOD AND MORE RESPONSIBILITIES...........................................IN CHANGING WORLD, WE NEED TO CHANGE THE PARENTING WAYS TOO.

OR ELSE , WE ARE CREATING IRRESPONSIBLE AND UNWORTHY CITIZENS , WHO LIVE LIKE PARASITES........A BURDEN TO THE SOCIETY.

THIS IS A SITUATION, WHERE THESE PAMPERED ONES, DON'T EVEN  KNOW ,''WHAT THEY ARE LIVING FOR''.

SUCCESS & SOME MISCONCEPTIONS !!!!!!!!!!

For some people, success is all about materialistic possessions.

They try to measure success by counting and weighing , how much they have acquired or what all they possess .

They are the least bothered about the spiritual side or the lighter side............being a good human being !

They do not bother about fulfilling the roles of being,whoever they are supposed to be in relationships.

These people are incapable of giving love to their own people,because they have misplaced ideas about success !